Frogman:
I have a theory that gaining may be more challenging mentally for some who start thin, because we’re not accustomed to being “a fat person”, living as one, and being treated as one.
Canuck:
i would agree with this theory, having been thru a similar experience.
i started gaining when i was with a fat partner. i'd been athletic my whole life, and it was the first time i kind of gave myself permission to "let go." when i was with my partner, enjoying our life together, it was amazing... but it was in those other moments when the realization was much harder to deal with.
after putting on 50 lbs i panicked a little and rushed back to the gym with an idea of getting back in shape, and that is when the reality of getting fat and out of shape really hit me. i was a (large) shadow of my former self in the gym!
that happened a few times during my that initial year of gaining. as time went on i think i kind of eased into being a fat (and growing) guy, and that conflict with my self-image as a buff, fit guy sort of died away.
now, several years later, and three times my original size, i look at it like a different life - almost a different person! and that is kind of cool, too, getting to live more than one life in a single lifetime.
like @frogman i am no longer trying to gain, and i should actually lose some weight, but i will never go back to being a thin guy or average sized.
I have a theory that gaining may be more challenging mentally for some who start thin, because we’re not accustomed to being “a fat person”, living as one, and being treated as one.
Canuck:
i would agree with this theory, having been thru a similar experience.
i started gaining when i was with a fat partner. i'd been athletic my whole life, and it was the first time i kind of gave myself permission to "let go." when i was with my partner, enjoying our life together, it was amazing... but it was in those other moments when the realization was much harder to deal with.
after putting on 50 lbs i panicked a little and rushed back to the gym with an idea of getting back in shape, and that is when the reality of getting fat and out of shape really hit me. i was a (large) shadow of my former self in the gym!
that happened a few times during my that initial year of gaining. as time went on i think i kind of eased into being a fat (and growing) guy, and that conflict with my self-image as a buff, fit guy sort of died away.
now, several years later, and three times my original size, i look at it like a different life - almost a different person! and that is kind of cool, too, getting to live more than one life in a single lifetime.
like @frogman i am no longer trying to gain, and i should actually lose some weight, but i will never go back to being a thin guy or average sized.
Thanks for sharing! It sounds like quite a journey, from one self-image to a completely different one. It’s great that you were able to embrace and live both of these lives. You say you need to lose some weight, but what do you like most about your current body and lifestyle?
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