Finickyfeedee:
I have been actively gaining again lately and run into a problem I’ve never dealt with before. I have a friend who is over at my house frequently, and he always wants to have some of whatever I’m eating or drinking. Since I’ve picked out my food and drinks with the goal of gaining weight, that’s a lot of very calorically heavy stuff. On occasion he has even seen me having a gainer shake and asked if he can have one. My friend is asexual and to my knowledge he is not a feedee, he just likes heavy foods and doesn’t care much if he gains or loses weight.
What is my responsibility in this situation and how can I deal with it without telling my friend I have a fat fetish? Saying anything like “Uh, you can have one if you want, but just so you know this drink is like 1000 calories” in a conversation with someone who doesn’t count calories seems like it’s inappropriate and possibly fatphobic, and like it would invite unwanted questions about why I’M drinking it. It doesn’t bother me if he eats my food but I want to be sure I’m not accidentally “secretly fattening him up” or whatever since that’s unethical.
If he’s really your friend. You can tell him the truth about your fetish. My friends have confide several things with me.
