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I certainly have myself. I had to force my retirement because it got so bad of some people trying to take advantage of me when they lead me on to so much promise when I felt like I finally got that “special kind of acceptance”.

While I may accept that I may never be able to get the feedist belly queen of my dreams, I still hang around the community and admire all of the pictures and videos. As far as dating IRL I’ve dated plenty of bigger girls who I was lucky enough to play with their bellies without anything to do with the weight gain kink (but sometimes I tease about it).

You can still enjoy yourself with this kink and whatnot, there’s nothing wrong with having a preference to this thing. Just don’t always let it be the most important thing in your life, especially when it’s affecting your dating life. But I am sorry that you are going through a tough time right now, but with time and courage you’ll be able to get back up! And maybe have someone in your life who can be able to find that nuance with your kink.

I am! until I met my partner recently, so hope are high again!

This in my experience this is no dating site. I am realistic about it. Like any forum you have a mix of motivation to be here, people here to look, discuss, satisfy curiosity, get turned on, and some out for encounters. And like any site, those out for personal advantage, or worse to do harm. But that life, no need to leave unless it not doing anything for you.

On the relationship front, this is a kink site, it’s going to be pretty shallow I think mostly. Relations are not kinks, I am not sure how you change that dynamic, more experienced people than me.


The only FFA that contacted me, just turned out to some content pimp.

FF is not a dating site. Yes, you can find love here. But it's much the same as you can find love at a farmer's market or a bowling alley.

Like someone else said in this thread, most people are here for vibes and horny. And if you adjust your expectations, you'll have a better time of things. Hell, you might even have better luck finding someone when you completely give up on the idea of finding someone because that's what happened to me.

Realistically? Yes, I made my peace with it well over a decade ago. The bottom line is, the numbers don't favor it, I'm not gonna lie to you.

Also, anytime gaining is involved, at some point that has to end. But I'm assuming you don't want the relationship to end when that happens, I know I don't. This means the relationship has to be built on something else.

It's far, far easier to find someone who's already quite fat and likes eating. While that means you'd miss out on the gaining process, it would have to end anyway. It also means having a life that's already adapted to being fat.

Also, someone said it might be easier or more likely when you give up looking. That's not true. If you do, life will pass you by, and you will die alone. Last time I was on a date, was years ago and I'm not even sure if it really counted. I've made little to no effort since then (why this is, is beyond the scope of this thread), and there have been no dates or prospects since then.

But, that's not why I keep coming back here. I come back here because I like the community, the discussion, the thoughts, and the content that others upload.

This is only a part of me, anyway.

this is the best explanation i have read yet of the difference between fetish vs dating platforms!

also keep in mind that if you find someone you are compatible with in a lot of ways, they may come to understand and appreciate your kink, even if they don't share it. my partner didn't even know what feedism was, but we dating because she is into fat guys. i introduced her to this kind of stuff - very gradually! - and over time she found the ways in which it appealed to her.

so not all feedees/feeders are born, some of them transition over time. just don't ram it down someone's throat, let them see what resonates with them.