Gaining

I have always struggled accepting the fact that I am into the idea of women or myself gaining as I really value my body's health and listening to the body's natural hunger signals. So stuffing really puts me off even though it's a fantasy. I also feel like I would want to experience a relationship with a woman into this, but I would also want a genuine connection and for her to value health as well. It makes it difficult to balance and know how to handle it, and meeting or talking to women into lighter feedism and not extreme gaining seems rare. Maybe I'm wrong though.
When it comes to myself my gaining desires fluctuate with arousal and I can one minute want a softer belly and the next I am happy with my abs again which makes it even more confusing. Are there any others out there who feel similar in regards to wanting to know how to navigate this kink and maybe meet others but also value health and the body so much.

This exact situation seems to be fairly common. In fact a lot of people, myself included are going for a muscle chub look. Being healthy and being overweight doesn't necessarily have to be mutually exclusive. Keep up with your workouts like normal and continue to eat healthy foods, just increase the quantity of food you're eating. As long as you eat more than what you burn you'll eventually start to gain weight. If stuffing isn't you're thing just take a grazing approach. Keeps snacks handy around you and eat throughout the day. Gaining while staying healthy is slower but it's definitely possible

To be honest, for man the weight is more of a problem.
Because they tend to store the fat more in the gut.
Women often get more subcutaneous fat in hips and legs.
Plus there body is made to accept a higher body fat percentage.
I would say bmi wise below 30 there is no real danger to health if you keep you exercise and nutrition in line. For women it can go up to 35.
but u need to keep your blood pressure, glucose and ldl hdl in check.
Above that you will run in to problems. You just need to think about if it’s worth it ✌🏻

Yes.. I had this fantasy for the longest time, while also caring a lot about quality of food, nutrition and sugar intake. When I finally did gain, I didn't do it with fast food. Just enjoying the same food I always had, but just a lot more. (Ok, there were many, many pints of ice cream.) And even as I gain now, I want to eat a good diet and stay active, so that I feel good. I just want to indulge a little more and feel the results of that indulgence!

Your story really resonated with me!

I'm so glad it resonated, I feel like it needs to be discussed a lot more. What foods exactly did you eat apart from the ice cream, did you just increase more of everything ?