Jboabfe:
I’m definitely heavy in the butt, I realized I was uncomfortable in just about every pair of jeans and ended up upsizing the pants. I think I might jump up another size, since even the new upsized pants (largest at the store I was shopping at) are JUST comfortable.
My boyfriend is bottom curvaceous (thicker thighs, round butt and wider hips) but he definitely wouldn't be considered fat here.
He's autistic and hates crowds so when shopping for pants he compares the width of the waist with his forearm to gauge so he doesn't have to try them on.
When he was heavier he used so wear size 34-36 so he thought the size 32 pants he had found would definitely fit.
He tried them once he got home and, to his dismay, they were tight in the legs and when he managed to pull them past his hips it became obvious there was no way he'd be able to button them.
He's a student and the last months have been very stressful for him so it's likely that he gained a bit of weight but you wouldn't know that by looking at his hollow cheeks and protruding collarbones.
Since then, he seems more self conscious, eats less at meals and somewhat reduced his sugar intake (he usually has ice-cream or pastries before bed). He's expressed that he doesn't feel good in his skin.
I'm trying to reassure him that he's not fat and nothing's wrong with his body. Thrift store clothes sometimes fit smaller or larger depending on how they were cared for and whether or not they got stretched with time. I suggested to him to look at the labels and avoid pants unless they have at least 5% stretchy fibers.
