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Serious question for those in the know:

I’m based in Seattle (very inclusive on paper), but the reality here is… mostly cishet, neurotypical, and very “tech-bro-transplant” vibes. A lot of folks perform wokeness but still cling to eurocentric standards and don’t actually know how to treat marginalized bodies.

Adding another layer with Feedism....

Anyways while I have amazing friends, the dating/meetup scene here has been exhausting.....fetishizing, dismissive, or just plain desperate.

I’m a trans, neurodivergent person of color, and I’m tired of being seen as a category instead of a person.

Where are the pockets of community that are:

Queer-inclusive

Fat-positive without being creepy

Neurodivergent-friendly

Actually full of good food and good people

And where bigotry isn’t tolerated as a "difference of opinion"?

This is part vacation planning, and soul searching. Just wanna go somewhere I can exist, indulge, and connect without feeling like a token or a fantasy.

Honestly sounds like Atlanta to me.

Atlanta, GA? Well, I'm not from there, but I have a lot of family that does. Never heard of anything that suggests it's friendlier to any of these these than your average city.

But I am open to being wrong. Perhaps one of our ATL feedists can chime in on this.

Do things like real life feedism communities exist?

Edit: This could go out of topic, but rereading your post has made me curious... You say "eurocentric standards", what do you mean by that?

This refers to the idea that anything involving white people is the gold standard. This includes things such as beauty standards, philosophy, fashion, religion, and more. Eurocentrism is a lasting holdover from colonialism.

I would also like one or two tangible examples. O.o

For example, I have 4C hair. 4C hair looks like this:

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White people do not have hair like this naturally. And while there is nothing wrong with my hair texture, under Eurocentrism, my hair is seen as weird or ugly. As such, I'd be encouraged to straighten my hair or hide it under wigs.

This is why you’re the GOAT 🎉Munchies