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So I have been part in the community for long time.

There isn't meetups in here or events.

So I was wondering does other people feel lonely?

Would be nice to meet other people from the community that are like minded.

How do people in general find other people to spend time time with?

I get a few drinks with some people I work with sometimes. I’ll meet up with a few folks from church who have a project going on.

It’s important to reconginze that loneliness is an emotion and not to confuse it with isolation or islanding. Start with some family be the one who calls don’t be the one always waiting for the call

Honestly, I am too busy with 9-5 work-life and taking of family to have time for friendships. It doesn't help that I have lack of transportation. Though I do miss my highschool friends. I rarely relate to anyone at work and the language barrier is no help either. At least with online friendships I don't have to be too involved in them.

Do you happen to be on the spectrum by any chance? It's not uncommon for autistic folks to struggle with making friends. I am not diagnosed but I do think I am neurodivergent. I struggle with social anxiety and social skills.

I'm old, I hung up my wild days on a nail I drove through my marriage license when I put it on the wall.

To put it bluntly, I don't spend time with other people in the community. I know one FFA who might be into this /stuff/ *gestures vaguely* but we are coworkers. Broaching the topic beyond introducing our spouses and sharing a knowing wink and extremely low key respect knuckle, would, I feel, be inappropriate.

As for where do people in this community meet? Well, here, on the internet, mostly.
Fantasy Feeder is good for seeing who might be local. DM them, say, "Hello!", don't be a creep.

As for casual encounters and more esoteric pleasures, you would probably have the best /luck/ with a certain fetish lifestyle website. Be cautious, shit gets weird real fast in that corner of the internet.


If your lucky there might be a size acceptance club within driving distance you could check out. (Shout out to the Butterfly Lounge!) I've also had some luck hanging out with similarly bent individuals at strip clubs that have "thiccc Thursday's". I Still have a few good friends from my younger and more halcion days whom I met at a weekly bbw night at a strip club. The men at those events are, to me, aloof and strange, but the masc. lesbians are usually gregarious and funny and make good wing /men/ and friends.

Thank you also for the answers.

I'm not a spectrum, I have friends & relatives but they are "normal" meaning don't understand this being fat is allright + some people enjoy it. Or that some people would love to gan weight.

Problem is that there is no BBW, BHM or Bigger people meetings in here, like I have seen other countries having those events. Meaning location but this I can understand, small country & few people in here.

Also travelling can be difficult because not having a car or money to fly to other countries at the moment.

Oh yeah I think this is pretty normal no matter where you are in the world, we as feedists occupy a liminal space. Best not get into loneliness better to be around people despite them not understanding you like or want to be fat