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Can't say I'm really surprised at the original poster's remarks. Not because it's true, because it's all about how you carry yourself and interact with others. I got into the kink just over a month ago and have had an incredible IRL experience, as well as a handful of meaningful, and flirty DMs with others. Treat people with respect, show an interest in what they're into besides our mutual kink, and LISTEN LISTEN LISTEN. Establishing trust and clear communication go a long way. It's not enough to have a certain body type, you should also be a decent person. Anyway, my 2 cents.

That's pretty much what this whole mess boiled down to. Doesn't matter what you look like - if you are a jerk, it's silly to expect people will want to be with you. It's why you often see jerks flaunt things like money, looks, and status as a reason to be with them. They know they don't have anything else to offer.

What a nice stadium we have here! I am thankful for that. Down on the field, like a rugby match, the two teams are fervently, passionately fighting for a chance at the ball, if only to run with it for a moment before being bludgeoned by the competitors.

The abused are one the benches, groaning.

In the stadium, I look around. Spectators mostly, enthralled by all the brouhaha. Some don't even understand the rules. Some have played the game and are either out because of injury or too old to play with the younger competitors. Some are here at the invitation of friends curious as to what side they will pick.

Some are here for the beer and food.

Then there are those who are outside the stadium. Some say they wouldn't go in there because "It's just crazy!" Most have seen the stadium and lack all interest in what goes on in the stadium - or they are afraid to ask. Some are very afraid of what might go on in the stadium and are embarrassed even when they have to drive by.

Some just don't give a hoot.

At least I have a place to go. I am in the stadium and I am watching with interest. There will be heros. There will be bums, but at least these are my kind of people.

Apt analogy. 100%