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I've been with one FA and we spent weeks getting to know each other first, establishing trust and respect. Then when we met, the physical things felt natural and we had established trust and communication. If we didn't get along so well, there's no chance we'd meet and continue with fun times together.

Part of me wants to be fetishized and lusted over for my body but I feel like the novelty would wear off real quick if everyone became a fat fetishist, been told I’m x despite being fat for a while, why can’t I be an object to sexualize — I totally get how that isn’t everyone’s experience, particularly fat women; but it’s how I feel sometimes as a fat person

I find this to be very common with people that do not fit society's idea of beauty and crave some form of validation. It's the same reason why non-feedists that are fat come into the community.

It feels nice to know people want you - even if it's shallow sometimes.

About 15 yearsago, I was visiting my regular bar. Always at saturdaynight. I was one of the regulars. At one night I was sitting at the bar, next to a fat girl. Just talking, having a drink together. At one point that night 4 guys (none regulars) came in quite loudly and started calling names at the fat girl next to me. That is where I stoot up and replied to the guys that she was a nice AND BEAUTIFUL girl. Other regulars, were suprised, but choose our side and in the end the 4 bullies left.

The next week, I got questions. Not weird ones, just trying to get to know e better and learning that some guys like blond, others dark hair, some guys like big boobs and others not and also that I'm of those guys who fancy fat women more that skinny women. So at once all the regulars knew about my preference for fat women and they accepted it, maybe not their choice, but it belonged to me.
It happened after that, when on a friday a fat girl came into the bar, I got a message, that I had to come.

That's hilarious.

I was talking to my mom the other day, going down memory lane. Apparently, when I was a kid, I told her I liked teddy bears because they are soft and fuzzy. And then she said, "I guess that translates to your taste in men."

And I couldn't say anything about it because I literally call my soft, fuzzy partner "cuddle bear."

Mom's be knowing things.

I didn't expect to read something so cute today. That's adorable!

Thank you!

Exactly! I definitely think that this is how it’s supposed to go anyways.

A lot of people are ashamed of this kink. And I get it. I do. But I see a lot of FAs (and feeders) who try to keep that part of them a secret so they don't lose whatever relationship they want to be in.

Do not do this. This will not end well.

Instead, do what Mark does: Take the time to get to know the other person, build trust, and communicate well to establish mutual trust.

Maybe you aren't right for each other. And that's okay. There are over 8 billion people in the world. Statistically speaking, you can find at least a couple of people that you vibe well with depending on how you go about things.