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Sometimes this kink is overwhelming in the sense I get such strong urges to stuff and gain weight it drives me crazy.

I mostly suppres the kinky side of me for civility reasons but I haven't had the chance to really live this side of myself in person with someone and just let go.

I'd really love that though. Just indulging with someone who understands it and is happy when you gain weight as opposed to violently hating it like the rest of society. Must be nice. It's such a dream. Until then...

In my opinion, your indulgence in this kink and ability to stuff yourself shouldn't be dependent on having a partner...

While I undersrand the desire to have someone who understands and supports you in this, if you don't have the confidence in yourself to stuff and gain and be yourself on your own you shouldn't bring that into a relationship.

It's a recipe for codependancy and if things don't go well in the relationship and you do indulge and gain, where does that leave you if it doesn't work out and they break up with you? Probably not in a great place...

Be confident in yourself, in who you are, in your kinks, and you will eventually find a person that sees you for the person you are

No one said anything about what you just said in your reply. It's a bit presumptuous to assume that I'm not confident and can't do this without another person. I would honestly refrain from offering advice where none was asked for. It's a bit rude ontop of all else. Just food for thought 🙃 thanks

I have no advice but sorry you received that one unsolicited advice. I think their comment also comes off as kind of abliest.

Lol yeah.

Besides, tbh my initial thoughts in my post were mostly about thinking it would be nice to find a partner that is into the kink.

Its not codependent to want someone with the same interests as you as opposed to someone who doesn't think fat is hot. (Notice I use the term want versus 'need'.)

Its fine to want someone. It doesn't mean you can't do it yourself. You'd just rather like to share the expirience and connect with someone who understands rather than someone who does not. Nothing wrong with that. Says nothing negative about you for wanting it.

It is indeed more fun to have an encouraging partner in food. Seems to make the weight come on faster 👍