How do you know for sure if you want to gain beyond fantasy and in real life

Joined 2 years

For me it is most fantasy. But I love a big rump and you can get it without living unhealthy.
I have seen the consequences of being seriously overweight and for me the risks are too big. The fantasy is great.

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How do you know for sure if you want to gain beyond fantasy and in real life

SumoSized

Joined 1 year

James556:
Ive made a few posts on here before, and still feel the same level of confusion. I'm sure many can relate but this kink at many times gives me a genuine desire to try gaining out. I'm not into extreme weight gain either on myself or on women, but mild gaining. But even that I've always struggled to know if I want it beyond fantasy, and as many have described my desire fades after getting off until it comes back and the cycle repeats, leaving me certain I want to keep this as a fantasy even though just minutes before I was planning on a trial gain! It makes no sense leaving me so confused. I am genuinely happy with my current body but obviously these fantasies are still with me. Do you think I should just accept that the thoughts/ cycle will come and go like this forever or should I maybe commit even though Im conflicted on so many levels. It's also confusing that with this kink you can't just leave it in the bedroom and have to live with the gains even when you may regret it, so maybe fantasy is best. It feels like it would be too intense if I gain.

I mean for the average person gaining takes quite a while so you'll have time to decide what's right for you. Maybe try relaxing your diet, don't intentionally overstuff yourself but try to eat more than you normally do. And see if you enjoy the extra padding. If you decide you do then keep going, and I'd you don't a few pounds shouldn't be hard to work off. Gaining isn't for everyone, but if you think you may enjoy it, it might be right for you

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How do you know for sure if you want to gain beyond fantasy and in real life

MottiF

Joined 8 years

James556:
Ive made a few posts on here before, and still feel the same level of confusion. I'm sure many can relate but this kink at many times gives me a genuine desire to try gaining out. I'm not into extreme weight gain either on myself or on women, but mild gaining. But even that I've always struggled to know if I want it beyond fantasy, and as many have described my desire fades after getting off until it comes back and the cycle repeats, leaving me certain I want to keep this as a fantasy even though just minutes before I was planning on a trial gain! It makes no sense leaving me so confused. I am genuinely happy with my current body but obviously these fantasies are still with me. Do you think I should just accept that the thoughts/ cycle will come and go like this forever or should I maybe commit even though Im conflicted on so many levels. It's also confusing that with this kink you can't just leave it in the bedroom and have to live with the gains even when you may regret it, so maybe fantasy is best. It feels like it would be too intense if I gain.

It’s the same for me, but to be honest, I’m acting out this fantasy with gaining and overeating because I really want to be a big, fat guy. Recently, a determined feeder entered my life, and my weight is climbing, and if things go well with her, I’m ready to go very far with it. So in my opinion, it’s really individual and depends on the circumstances. For example, alone, I wouldn’t gain this much, although I do gain and don’t mind reaching a point where I’m truly huge while still staying mobile. If it’s in the context of a relationship, like I said, I could even go further, knowing she’s by my side.

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How do you know for sure if you want to gain beyond fantasy and in real life

Jboabfe

Joined 10 years

It was a fantasy for a while for me too, but the thing that kept me off of it was money and the judgement I’d get. As I’ve gotten older, more people in general are fatter/I don’t care ans much about being judged and the money thing is really the only thing that holds me back. What’s left now is a cycle of “maintaining” and being really into noticing how I’ve gotten fatter that and that usually motivates me into a couple days of stuffing.

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How do you know for sure if you want to gain beyond fantasy and in real life

AskDrFeeder

Joined 16 years

There's no sure-fire way except to get fat and see if you like it. The risk in that case is you might not like it, and then you have a bunch of weight to lose. In fact you might never get back to normal.

What interests me: there are feedees who gain weight, don't like it, and then lose it. Then deliberately gain it back again. Some even lose again and gain it back again!

For example, consider KellieJelliBelli. She got fat three times and lost the weight twice before she decided to stick with being fat.

Of course it would have been easier if she'd just gotten fat once and been content with that.

But perhaps she had to make sure she could lose the weight if she wanted, and wasn't just caving to her cravings. I'd think one gain/loss cycle would be enough for that, but perhaps she had to double-check.

If anyone else has a theory on why one would gain and lose more than once I'd be interested to hear it.

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How do you know for sure if you want to gain beyond fantasy and in real life

ChubbyThinker

Joined 1 month

i wish this topic was talked about more. i would like to know how others who are not gaining, are dealing with the fantasy of gaining. as i also still struggle with this. dispite gaing a little bit over the past few years

what i do know is, that when someone is horny, they find thing a lot less disgusting. this is something that our hormoness trigger as a mental protection during the act. i think this also affects this case.

as for after your done, something i tel myself is that the best decision i can make, is with a clear and objective mindset, also if i am happy the way i am, i dont have to change. be proud of what you are.

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How do you know for sure if you want to gain beyond fantasy and in real life

Nyarlep

Joined 11 years

If you feel like you would enjoy it outside of just a sexual setting would be a good indicator. Being fat is something that doesn’t go away once you leave the bedroom. You remain fat when you go shopping, drive, work, school, see and interact with others. If you think about that stuff and feel like you would still enjoy being fat then I’d probably go with that.

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How do you know for sure if you want to gain beyond fantasy and in real life

Razz

Joined 7 years

I'm the same way, so I get it. My 'compromise' is trying to listen to my body and not outpace what feels uncomfortable, which means working out and periods of maintaining, but has still averaged out to like 15 lbs a year since I decided to gain.

I think if any amount of you is curious, it's worth relaxing enough to let a small amount of weight happen. You could lose it just as quickly if you don't like the feeling. But either way it's not all or nothing, and can happen in steps. Just a fair warning that you might find it as addictive as they say

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