Gaining

Ive made a few posts on here before, and still feel the same level of confusion. I'm sure many can relate but this kink at many times gives me a genuine desire to try gaining out. I'm not into extreme weight gain either on myself or on women, but mild gaining. But even that I've always struggled to know if I want it beyond fantasy, and as many have described my desire fades after getting off until it comes back and the cycle repeats, leaving me certain I want to keep this as a fantasy even though just minutes before I was planning on a trial gain! It makes no sense leaving me so confused. I am genuinely happy with my current body but obviously these fantasies are still with me. Do you think I should just accept that the thoughts/ cycle will come and go like this forever or should I maybe commit even though Im conflicted on so many levels. It's also confusing that with this kink you can't just leave it in the bedroom and have to live with the gains even when you may regret it, so maybe fantasy is best. It feels like it would be too intense if I gain.

For me it is most fantasy. But I love a big rump and you can get it without living unhealthy.
I have seen the consequences of being seriously overweight and for me the risks are too big. The fantasy is great.

I mean for the average person gaining takes quite a while so you'll have time to decide what's right for you. Maybe try relaxing your diet, don't intentionally overstuff yourself but try to eat more than you normally do. And see if you enjoy the extra padding. If you decide you do then keep going, and I'd you don't a few pounds shouldn't be hard to work off. Gaining isn't for everyone, but if you think you may enjoy it, it might be right for you

It’s the same for me, but to be honest, I’m acting out this fantasy with gaining and overeating because I really want to be a big, fat guy. Recently, a determined feeder entered my life, and my weight is climbing, and if things go well with her, I’m ready to go very far with it. So in my opinion, it’s really individual and depends on the circumstances. For example, alone, I wouldn’t gain this much, although I do gain and don’t mind reaching a point where I’m truly huge while still staying mobile. If it’s in the context of a relationship, like I said, I could even go further, knowing she’s by my side.

It was a fantasy for a while for me too, but the thing that kept me off of it was money and the judgement I’d get. As I’ve gotten older, more people in general are fatter/I don’t care ans much about being judged and the money thing is really the only thing that holds me back. What’s left now is a cycle of “maintaining” and being really into noticing how I’ve gotten fatter that and that usually motivates me into a couple days of stuffing.

There's no sure-fire way except to get fat and see if you like it. The risk in that case is you might not like it, and then you have a bunch of weight to lose. In fact you might never get back to normal.

What interests me: there are feedees who gain weight, don't like it, and then lose it. Then deliberately gain it back again. Some even lose again and gain it back again!

For example, consider KellieJelliBelli. She got fat three times and lost the weight twice before she decided to stick with being fat.

Of course it would have been easier if she'd just gotten fat once and been content with that.

But perhaps she had to make sure she could lose the weight if she wanted, and wasn't just caving to her cravings. I'd think one gain/loss cycle would be enough for that, but perhaps she had to double-check.

If anyone else has a theory on why one would gain and lose more than once I'd be interested to hear it.