ThePlusSizeWife:
Have you ever seen or heard about a man who liked thin women becoming hot for bigger women after his wife becomes fat ?
Most of this is a copy and paste from when I asked this question on reddit. One thing that I (31f) appreciate about my husband (27m) is that he doesn't usually lie to make people feel better. If he thinks that his opinion would hurt someone's feelings, he will keep it to himself unless he is asked. I don't know why this happened but after the wedding, I just packed on the weight. Maybe an explanation is because he said I could quit the job I had since I didn't like it, and that I could stay at home.
My husband was still loving and passionate but I wanted to know what he was thinking. I asked him if I was still as sexy as I was when we were engaged. He said he still loves me but I'm too fat for his current tastes. He said but since I got big, the look of a bigger woman had been slowingly becoming more appealing to him. He said he's known men who end up being hot for bigger women a few years after their wives got fat. He also said he's seem my mom and other relatives, so he knew this would likely happen.
I appreciate the bluntness and what he said about how views me is believable. But I do feel insecure. He's a very conventionally attractive, wealthy man. I do fear competition from other women. But my husband has shown even more physical affection since our talk. He said he wants to try new things. I do want to believe him but things are more believable when one hears about other people going through it. Have you ever seen or heard about a man becoming hot for bigger women after his wife gets fat ?
You don't need a kink website. You need both individual and couple's therapy. Good on your husband for trying to make you feel better about your body, but this clearly broke something in you that the internet cannot fix.
