Clothes padding

Hey all. If any of y'all follow my posts, you'll know I love to get padded up and go out in public, presenting as a fat man with a large belly. I've done this dozens of times now, but there's always the persistent fear in the back of my head -- what if someone I know sees me??.

I'm sure most everyone here has had the same thoughts - even if you don't go out padded, you probably have the fear that someone will "walk in on you", and see you pretending to be fat (or fatter).

More and more lately, I'm wondering if that's actually as big a deal as I've always felt it is. I mean, for me (and I imagine, most of us), padding has direct links to sex/masturbation, so it's like there's a built-in link in my head -- as if the shame of getting caught with one (masturbation) is equal to the shame of getting caught in the other (padding).

But lately I feel like there's a growing disconnect, as most of my padded activities now have nothing (overtly) to do with sex! It's just me going to a clothes store, or out to eat, etc -- normal human activities (I guess I still have some sexual thrill by feeling like a fat man, but it's not like I'm jerking off in public!). And it's got me thinking about how if someone else enjoyed going out with say, a blue wig, should they feel ashamed that they get recognized in public? At this point, padding is basically a hobby to me, so why am I so embarrassed by it??

And more importantly, if I told my close friends about it how would they actually react? My wife knows about it and is surprisingly cool with it, but she also knows a lot more about my sexual preferences than my friends. I haven't worked up the courage yet, I mean it's not something you can just take back, but more and more I feel like it doesn't actually matter if they know. I mean, everyone does weird stuff, right? What's so bad about playing dress-up? Idk. I guess my ultimate goal is to be able to go out proudly, near my own house -- if someone from work, or a neighbor, sees me padded, I want to be able to own it. Be like "Oh this? Yeah, I like to tinker with this fat suit. How does it look? etc" and then go about my day, unembarrassed.

So I made this post to talk about it.

Do y'all agree?
Have any of you told anyone about your padding? Or have you gotten caught padding?
How'd they take it?

I haven't confessed specifically padding, but I did let some friends know ahead of time that the next time they see me, I will be fatter/curvier, and that it was a conscious choice to gain weight. I like, came out as a fat(ter) person. Absolutely no one has said anything about my weight, but I felt safer having someone know. So I told my friends, one of whom is trans, and his response was beautiful, "aww, of course we want you to be in the body you're most comfortable with. Thanks for sharing with us" and it was wholesome and I felt more confident around them. I want the people around me to know I'm not ashamed by it.

OMG! This is my experience, too!! Padding and crossdressing was really sexual for me for a long time as well.

I began to take the sexual part out of the activity a couple years ago and my feelings about padding started to shift entirely. I had goals for overall realism and "passability". Since then, I've started to go out dressed up, too. And I've come out to several people including family. I haven't dressed around most of them, but they know about it.

I've had that same realization about others seeing me, too. It's unusual and I'll probably feel a little awkward if I see someone I know, but I'm really gaining more and more confidence each time I do it. I have every Friday to go out and I've really been enjoying it.

I still haven’t have the courage to do it publicly, while I can do it in some place no one recognised me but in other hand what if I’ll meet someone who knew me, or if I’ll pad myself badly and something would fall off. 🫣

Interesting - I have not done padding since I was young but definitely still love the thought, in fact some of the earliest memories of stuffing pillows was during my sexual arousal starting point.

Several years ago I packed on a lot of pounds and a huge Gut. At first it was accidental weight gain and then after I noticed, I was intentionally stuffing all the time to gain as much as I could, mostly to have my wife tease, scold or even reprimand me for packing on such a huge belly.

I kept going for many months and had the most I tense arousal feelings while always being so bloated and stuffed. Not to mention, I was constantly ravenous and ate so much. My XL T-shirts were completely stretched out with my huge belly and even rode up a few inches mostly after eating a huge meal. It was during these times I would go grocery shopping at my local store where I knew many employees for many years wearing my now way outgrown jeans in a 36” waist stretched to the max under my huge gut when bloated was easily 49” with my XL T-shirt that was more like a medium with my belly peeking a good 3-4” out the bottom. I would come through the line with an obscene amount of Ben n Jerry’s, cookies, chocolates and some wine when I would see a lady I have known for many years and some 50+ pounds ago. She must have been thinking, Wow, has he really porked out and knowing why with the cart filled with fattening treats for myself and my wife. I would get so aroused leaving there with my arms filled with bags and my huge fat gut sticking out in front of me and bouncing up and down with every step back to my car.

This same arousal and erotic rush turned a bit into embarrassment and shame when I would meet up with some of our couples for meds for dinner and a night out which I hadn’t seen since I packed on all my weight. I remember going in for a hug with the wife of the couple we met up with and her actually bouncing back off my belly and struggling to wrap her arms around me. I was so embarrassed the whole dinner and really tried to contain myself from resting or eating too fast in front of them. My wife had been fattening up right along with me for the past many months although hers was not intentional. Also, she had the habit of gaining 20-30 pounds and then dieting over the years so friends were more used to seeing her either very chunky or slightly thinner from time to time. My wife even comment after she ordered a couple extra appetizers after the lady ordered two already “which I was happy about” but my wife said, as you might have noticed we have developed bigger appetites recently. I was in shock and embarrassed and my wife was used to this stuff with herself but I was never included in one of these bring it out in the open moments about weight gain.

So, I guess I differ with feelings having an bit gay gut sticking out in front of me around friends while I was at my heaviest than I did with strangers and or people I knew from a restaurant or grocery store that were not really friends, that I enjoyed showing how fat I had become. In fact during this time I liked having my wife and Isolated a bit from friends and family where we could just eat and get fatter around each other.