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Basically ppl want you to pay them to interact with them. Why should I pay to have someone to interact with me?
if you want a specific someone to interact with you, yes, you may have to pay them for that!
if you want people to interact with you purely out of their own interest, well, you don't get to pick who those people are... they will be whoever finds you interesting.
there's a real undercurrent of male entitlement in these "everything is a scam" posts that i've seen lately, and it's always "the (fill-in-the-blank) is the problem, the problem is not me."
i've been on ff and feabie a long time (mostly ff), i've made great friends on both sites. i've been out to dinner and for drinks with a few members, too. i've never dated anyone from either site, though. i know a few friends that have - but it's very, very, very, very rare.
if you're pissed off that someone won't respond to your messages except through onlyfans, they're a pro, they're not there for casual chit chat. so either pay up, or move on. simple as that.
never expect to get more out of an online community than you're prepared to put into it.