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I come to the conclusion that fat fetishism is very strong related to an extreme male brain which again is related to Autism. The evidence in my self and many other people with autism is unsettling obvious.
It makes so much sence.
I want to start a sexual preference study with Simon Baron-Cohen to substantiate his extreme male brain theory.

Just read The extreme male brain theory of autism Simon Baron-Cohen from 2002.

I’m not getting the connection. At all.

Sure, systematizing (smallfat, fat, superfat, etc.) is part of the fatosphere, but equally so is emotional awareness and ability.

May reflect my own biases: i’m genetically male, and demonstrably adept in both the empathizing and systematizing realms. (Not since birth, but since my mid-20s.)

Actually the connection is pretty obvious, many people in the autism spectrum are into big girls, too many that it could be just a coincidence. I myself high functiol autist am searching for patterns, connections and when i read about the extreme male brain theory i almost immediatly made the link to fat fetishism.
Because its only logic that if the behavior is the consequence of an extreme male brain than so the natural attraction to feminine features is also turned into the extreme leading to a fatfetish. For myself i have no doubt about my theory but here also comes the problem... Since i understood my whole personality, the things i like, don't like, my sexual preferences and so on...are just a result of how my brain is connected/working i rushed into a dark crises of meaning and i can no longer bring together this rational side and my beleave into a spiritual world.

Interesting theory and i’m glad you raised it for the community to discuss, but again, my lived experience witnessing and interacting with many people seems different. Many people on the A. spectrum into big girls? Absolutely yes… true. Many people not on the A. spectrum into big girls? Yes. I have no comparative statistics, but subjectively amongst people i’ve known or known enough about, on or off the spectrum seems mostly in balance, or if anything slightly biased towards A. spectrum individuals.

This discussion and that Simon Baron-Cohen study from 2002 got me thinking about the many people (mostly identifying as men) who’ve come here and other places in the community over the years seeking an algorithm for “how to get with a fat woman”. For at least some of those individuals, no matter how many times and different ways folks would try to be helpful with things like “get to know them as a person”, “everyone’s different”, etc., those asking the original question(s) often were not satisfied. The extreme male brain/autism theory is one possible explanation for the disconnect between those asking and those answering.

I smell the incels back at it again

Damn incels. Get a girlfriend already!

My husband is autistic and I am autistic adhd. I've wanted to be big sense as long as I can remember but always lost weight after my bad break ups and have a ridiculously high metabolism. My husbands been attracted to massive women seens before high school atleast.

What the hell kind of incel bait is this

I am so confused? WAT?

what evidence do you actually have to support this claim? Is there a study you are talking about? A group of your own people? If so how many people were involved? You can't make baseless claims off of what you perceive to be reality when everyone perceives it differently.