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like honestly i dont get it. i will shoot my shot and go for like the fattest guys and they always reject me. or they will hook up with me and then ghost me. idk why because the guys who i get with who are extremely conventionally attractive (not attractive to me i only like fat guys) but like that my friends would say are super attractive, they never do that to me. its always the fat guys who like lowkey cheat on me and shit. it pisses me off so badly. like the conventionally attractive guys never do that to me and i always end up ending stuff with them for fat guys and then they literally just do me dirty like all the time. i just dont understand why i keep getting treated like shit by fat men when theyre the only ones i want.

Thats strange and sad. A lot of fat men would be glad being in their Position ( thats at least my guess, unless you are making them feel its more like they are a tool or object in whatever sense ).

hook up culture has kinda ruined that prospect for a lot of people who long for it.

I don’t understand how there’s dudes who are heavy with wives and or girlfriends who cheat, it shrimply seems like rage bait to me. Like how bro.

The second guy I've dated years ago who cheated on me was a gainer man from Texas on Dimensions. Unlike me, he has been in many relationships and was previously dating a feeder woman from his state. Which I will touch upon eventually.

Anyways, we both had some meaningful conversations together that isn't even just about our fetishes. He was the few people in my lifetime where I was taken seriously despite my introverted nature and mental disabilities and our chats were genuine. Around winter time was when our relationship slowly started to fade away. He was even reaching his goal of gaining 400 lb.

I will note I was around 21 or 22 while he was near his 40's which looking back was a bit problematic. Because of my age and naiveness, he took advantage of me. I can remember how he would often bring up his previous girlfriend and I can even remember the time he compared both of our breast sizes. Which was when I finally stood up for myself but I did regret not dumping him on the spot.

As a year passed he started to talk less often. I was worried at the time but I tried to respect his boundaries. He has talked to me about wanting to lose weight due to health problems and wanting to see his sons more often from his previous marriage. Which I was fine with.

As for his ex. I have seen her venting on the forums multiple times which I assure she missed the guy I was with. I am for certain even he missed her too and I was just a temporary solution to his loneliness.

Now, my ex boyfriend has told me stories about their relationship together. I think the cause of their downfall was she was assertive and wanted to continue feeding while he was injured and couldn't work. I don't know if that story was the final blow of their relationship, but it has given me an idea what their relationship dynamics were like.

Anyways, back to our decline of our relationship. The ex-girlfriend did leave a couple of hearts on his thread and that was when I finally knew he was a player. I probably should've talked to him but I instead ended up blocking him and used the site less often.

A friend of mine told me they made up which I wasn't surprised. The local feeder girl did write a positive blog about being back together. Unsurprisingly, her boyfriend did block me. However, as a year has passed, he eventually unblocked me and even liked one of my comments. That led me to assume their relationship collapsed again or maybe he was playing games with me. Who knows.

I will admit I haven't moved on from him at the time despite masking up my emotions; didn't fully heal. Because of my loneliness I added him back. I didn't bother messaging him until New Years 2023. Which I regret doing since he hasn't responded back in a while. That was when I deleted my Dims account and realized he wasn't worth it.

To this day I no longer have feelings for this man. But I can understand why I used to love him. We were both lost souls who were sensitive deep down. I am glad though that we didn't date too long considering he was struggling with rent and had insecurity issues. Not to mention he had some drug addictions. I wouldn't be surprised if those cons was why his wife left him years ago.

These stories hurt my heart. As a fat man i wish I had been found and approached (by an age appropriate person) and had that kind of dynamic. I feel like a lot of years of fun have been potentially wasted.

Ugh this sucks I’m sorry. I was going to say I wonder if it was his age if he was quite young and maybe not ready to commit but some of the other stories here contradict that. In any case that’s unacceptable behavior.

Back in the day, I passed on a lot of potential feedist relationships simply because I was oblivious when a girl liked me. But, like, if I had known and accepted, I wouldn't have cheated or treated any of them badly.

Combination of things. Could be lack of maturity on their parts, but also the fact they maybe attracted to plus sized over slender probally has a lot to do why. Back in the day, 40 yrs ago it was the opposite, if you were overweight, you had a high probability that you would have a hard time finding someone. Society in recent years has come to flip the switch and gone the other way in terms of fat acceptance. I would say do not try so hard and eventually you will find some nice BHM that will give you a chance. Dating today is really hard all around. If it aint looks, its age, if it aint age, its something else for those rejecting the other people to have reason not to give that person a chance. We become too much a cynical and narcisstic society and dependent on technology to find someone as well, unlike 30 years ago when the internet was up and coming and people still had to rely on their wit and charms in person to make the connection. Hang in there, you will find someone. Best of luck in 2026. The only tip I have for you is perseverance. Sometimes if you want something in life, you have to go out and get it, and not let it come to you.

If you’re seeking out fat men, you have to understand that there is a major difference in psychology between fat men who hate being fat, and never wanted to be fat, and fat men who are feedists and gained weight deliberately.

The former kind of man invariably has low self esteem, and simply doesn’t respect people who find him attractive.

You are making a point there that is the main line in "this fetish admiration".
People, when they meet a person with certain body types, we all assume things, like if we see someone fat, we think that person got fat because they wanted to.
The fact that someone likes to gain weight does not mean that they have low self-esteem.
There are people who like to eat but don't like to gain weight. However, they don't burn off the calories they consume.
Which, for me, is the saddest thing... I mean, if you don't like what you see and start crying, well, do something about it, right?.
So if we meet someone, we have to SCAN the situation, because if that person doesn't want to gain weight and you start OVERFEEDING him/her, well, that person might start growing resentment over the feeder and psychologically hurt themselves.