FAMGM:
If you’re seeking out fat men, you have to understand that there is a major difference in psychology between fat men who hate being fat, and never wanted to be fat, and fat men who are feedists and gained weight deliberately.
The former kind of man invariably has low self-esteem and simply doesn’t respect people who find him attractive.
Shadowddr:
You are making a point there that is the main line in "this fetish admiration".
People, when they meet a person with certain body types, we all assume things, like if we see someone fat, we think that person got fat because they wanted to.
The fact that someone likes to gain weight does not mean that they have low self-esteem.
There are people who like to eat but don't like to gain weight. However, they don't burn off the calories they consume.
Which, for me, is the saddest thing... I mean, if you don't like what you see and start crying, well, do something about it, right?.
So if we meet someone, we have to SCAN the situation, because if that person doesn't want to gain weight and you start OVERFEEDING him/her, well, that person might start growing resentment over the feeder and psychologically hurt themselves.
I'm a fat woman with low self esteem issues. My family have often fat shamed me so unsurprisingly I never loved my body. If you’re seeking out fat men, you have to understand that there is a major difference in psychology between fat men who hate being fat, and never wanted to be fat, and fat men who are feedists and gained weight deliberately.
The former kind of man invariably has low self-esteem and simply doesn’t respect people who find him attractive.
Shadowddr:
You are making a point there that is the main line in "this fetish admiration".
People, when they meet a person with certain body types, we all assume things, like if we see someone fat, we think that person got fat because they wanted to.
The fact that someone likes to gain weight does not mean that they have low self-esteem.
There are people who like to eat but don't like to gain weight. However, they don't burn off the calories they consume.
Which, for me, is the saddest thing... I mean, if you don't like what you see and start crying, well, do something about it, right?.
So if we meet someone, we have to SCAN the situation, because if that person doesn't want to gain weight and you start OVERFEEDING him/her, well, that person might start growing resentment over the feeder and psychologically hurt themselves.
Why I never bother losing weight or dieting? Aside from working 9-5 it was just not my biggest priority at the moment. I struggle with mental health issues and pop/coffee addiction that is also a factor to my weight gain.
Overall I try to accept for who I am and not dwell over it. I've started to realize I can't please anyone and sometimes that is their own reflection of themselves.
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