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ive been talking to this guy recently and i genuinely really like him as a person. we have the exact same sense of humor and he matches my energy perfectly, we have so much in common, he gets along with my friends, and i actually enjoy talking to him but the only problem is hes not fat. hes 6’5, conventionally attractive and muscular like and i know this sounds like such a first world problem but i just wish he was fat. i already told him that im into fat guys but he doesnt want to gain weight. and i keep thinking back to the fat guy i talked to before him who i literally had nothing in common with, he was lowkey evil and his personality was kind of insufferable, but his body was so hot. like i just keep thinking about how much i miss being with a fat guy. i genuinely really like this guy but im scared of letting things go any further because i know im just going to be fantasizing about guys who are bigger. idk what to do please give advice.

Honestly I wish I had any sort of answer for you but ultimately it's your call. I get it, I struggle a lot with dealing with similar issues. My partner would HAVE to be into feederism for it to work, and I've had a few relationships before that didn't work out because I couldn't get past it. It ultimately just depends on if you're capable (I won't say willing because I understand sometimes you just can't) of setting aside your kinks for someone

I don’t think you should wait for someone who might come and focus on who’s in front of you. It’s hard enough to find someone you vibe with.

I've dated women I wasn't attracted to before, on the basis of personality alone. It didn't work in the bedroom, and eventually that leads to it not working, period. Like, sex isn't everything, but a relationship without sex is just a friendship. If you're friends already, that's probably peak relationship with this dude.

So, like, try to find a feedee who isn't evil. We exist, all over, and many of us don't even know there's a name for that yet.