Fat experiences

I have no reason to excuse it and your advice is dismissive. Just don’t call people eggs uninvited is the solution.

This gotta be ragebait

ironic stance given your user name.

i got the joke. i thought it was funny. you didn't like the joke. that's fine too. If urchie said what you said, no, it's not funny. but they way they said it was funny.

what they said was not meant to demean, it was not said to dismiss anyone. it was not said from a position of power. it was not hurtful. it was not even directed at anyone in particular, they didn't call any single person a name. they said it to "the room."

it's even on topic, the more i think about it. we have two stances in this thread: people saying "i think fat people are more feminine, or become more femme-like as they gain," and the other side saying, "no, not true, fat can be masculine too."

you mentioned you have struggled with this, and you are working on getting to a better place by working out, which is great. kudos for you. but you may also want to more carefully examine why you feel compelled to assert your masculinity. i don't know you, but i detect your discomfort with feminine side.

i speak from experience. i spent my teens/20s as a straight man. being called gay was a perjorative term. later in my 20s i become bi. now in my 40s i am with a trans partner, and gender play is a thing. it's a journey, and it's not done yet! but i can look back at how i thought, how i saw myself and others 25 years ago, and i see how much was just me - not anyone else.

and if this discussion topic (it's a common one here on ff) is triggering, i suggest just avoiding it. if you don't like it or agree with it, i understand. if you're offended at the mention of an egg, not even specifically directed at you, fine - sometimes it's ok to be offended. but i don't think urchie was being offensive. there's a difference.

i am tending to agree with urchie on this one.

you lost me - who has no choice, and who is the dinosaur???

thanks for clarifying. not sure i agree with everything that you said, but that's fine. i am not schooled in psychology, biology, etc. so i am definitely not an expert.



i agree with you - not every male feedee. by far. in fact, they are probably in the minority.

however, in kink space (which i am very experienced in) there is a big overlap on the venn diagram of those with the male feedee/gainer kink and a feminization kink. hence why this topic is re-initiated by someone new every two months.

i don't know why anyone has to "push back" on anything? it's like the people who decry death feedists... it's their kink. if you don't like it (it's certainly not my thing), don't participate. but let them do what they like if they're consenting adults.

thanks for clarifying. not sure i agree with everything that you said, but that's fine. i am not schooled in psychology, biology, etc. so i am definitely not an expert.



Agreed entirely. Pursuit of sexual gratification is allowed to involve fantasy, metaphor, symbolism and representation.

I’m not entirely sure why, in this thread, suddenly people are requiring Everything to Comport With Objective Reality.

It’s interesting. I struggle with this question. I used to play football but I love femme bodies and I like the feminizing effect gaining has on me.

On the other hand I also like being strong and having a masculine presence. The only way I can think of a balance is to work out and gain fat plus muscle.

Knowing I might never be conventionally attractive nor able to attract a woman who is into that dualism. It’s just so rare to find a girl who actually likes a chubby guy in real life.

That being said. I try to just make myself happy with my body. Indulge in kinks where I appreciate a variety of body types and fulfill myself sexually and emotionally.

As long as I don’t lose so much strength I can’t defend myself or get so out of shape I can’t escape danger and can please a woman with my sexual organ then I still feel like a man.

Even if I’m growing out of my bra , my ass is too fat for my panties and the chair is too narrow for my hips

The balance is interesting.

Oh I love the transphobia in here very nice touch

And where has Munchies gone? Her self-satisfied, know-it-all contributions really would have made this particular thread a cracker.

There comes a point when you gain so much weight, and depending on your proportions and body type, you no longer look very different from an obese woman, especially if you develop a super fat fupa and large moobs. This is happening to me, but I feel great about it.