Urchie:
Yall please it was a joke my lord
Igetthejoke:
Jokes are supposed to be funny, i don’t care who wasn’t offended it’s like if I went to a gay person and said “youre actually just trans”. Not a joke.
ironic stance given your user name.
i got the joke. i thought it was funny. you didn't like the joke. that's fine too. If urchie said what you said, no, it's not funny. but they way they said it was funny.
what they said was not meant to demean, it was not said to dismiss anyone. it was not said from a position of power. it was not hurtful. it was not even directed at anyone in particular, they didn't call any single person a name. they said it to "the room."
it's even on topic, the more i think about it. we have two stances in this thread: people saying "i think fat people are more feminine, or become more femme-like as they gain," and the other side saying, "no, not true, fat can be masculine too."
you mentioned you have struggled with this, and you are working on getting to a better place by working out, which is great. kudos for you. but you may also want to more carefully examine why you feel compelled to assert your masculinity. i don't know you, but i detect your discomfort with feminine side.
i speak from experience. i spent my teens/20s as a straight man. being called gay was a perjorative term. later in my 20s i become bi. now in my 40s i am with a trans partner, and gender play is a thing. it's a journey, and it's not done yet! but i can look back at how i thought, how i saw myself and others 25 years ago, and i see how much was just me - not anyone else.
and if this discussion topic (it's a common one here on ff) is triggering, i suggest just avoiding it. if you don't like it or agree with it, i understand. if you're offended at the mention of an egg, not even specifically directed at you, fine - sometimes it's ok to be offended. but i don't think urchie was being offensive. there's a difference.
i am tending to agree with urchie on this one.