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its kind of been a reoccurring issue for me where every fat guy i meet wants to lose weight. like im at the point now where i’ll straight up tell guys that i think they would look better fatter and that im rly into fat guys but like they dgaf, disregard everything i say, and still wanna lose weight. like i was talking to this rly fat guy in like may of 2025 and like recently we starting talking again and he was like bragging to me abt the fact that he lost 30 pounds. like ok good for him i guess but like tbh i would’ve preferred if he gained 30 pounds instead. i straight up told him that and he called me a weirdo freak. like it deadass be the fat people themselves hating on me for liking them. its like they cant believe i would be interested in them bcs of like the internalized hatred that they harbour towards themselves due to like societal standards n shit. idk it lowkey pisses me off so much like i wish they could see how attractive they are

Dang hadn't met me yet. 😜

There you go!
Same thing for me having a weak spot for big girls. Exactly what you suffered.. met a fatty and like them for being big - no! All thoughts about gaining weight - denied, telling you being a freak.

Let me tell you there a fat haters all around wanting one to diet right now.

A woman loving a fat man, asking him to gain for her because her fingers like to dig deeper..

I wish you all the best Miss Unicorn!!

Unless people are into this, Its gonna seem strange bc its not how society works. If you find a non kink enthusiast fat person, you have to accept that they might want to lose weight and might do it, even if you like them like that. They have to like themselves or your gonna feel that unhappiness and it will 'yuck your yum'.

So, it's probably best you find someone from the community tbh. If a fat partner always being so is your big thing (ha), then don't bother converting normies unless you're interested in turning over a lot of stones.

Just speaking as someone married to a normal bhm who might lose weight someday.

I don’t mind when fat guys lose weight. They are just going to gain it back. A majority of people who diet gain back the weight they lost. I wanna be around when he starts eating carbs and sugar again. When the pounds start piling back on, I’ll be there to tell him how good he looks.

I agree with the person above me he might gain weight again. When it comes to having a 9-5 job you barely have time and energy to lose weight. Unless if exercising or active activities are his hobbies but for sure he will want to relax more often after a long day of dealing with people and supervisors.

Not to mention even one can be busy during a day off. Gotta clean around the house and go grocery shopping. Makes me miss being a kid.

ugh i totally agree with u like that sounds soo incredibly hott like i deadass fantisize abt that type of shit. like telling him how good he looks with the extra pounds

In my younger days as a feeder, I ran into the same problem but with the big girls. Generally the relationship would fizzle out if they really didn't enjoy their size. I played unpaid therapist to so many girls who hated themselves and their bodies most of all.

This is a problem of their own. It is a mismatch of their bodies and their desires, either because they have no willpower or because they're too afraid of their true desires. In neither case are they desirable. If they have no willpower, to the point that they hate the way they look but keep doing nothing about it, whoever dates them will have to carry everything in that relationship. If they're in denial about their desire to be big, and some sensual affirmation and encouragement can't bring it out of them, then they need deeper introspection and possibly therapy than you can provide.

I would just say, hang in there and keep trying. You will definitely one day find the barrel-bellied beefcake of your dreams, you're just going to have to meet a lot of weak-willed diet sheeple first. Too bad you don't live nearby...