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I’m writing this post because I was wondering if I’m the only one here who sometimes gets bothered by having particular kinks and fetishes (I have a lot), in addition to being attracted to only one specific body type (stocky, big, fat men, and hairy​ 🐻) and being gay too (oh yeah, and I’m graysexual or ace). It greatly limits my choices in life when it comes to sexuality. Whenever I had the opportunity to have sex with guys I politely declined because, of course, I wasn’t very interested in sex, and they didn’t attract me physically because I’m only attracted to one specific body type. I don’t know why I’m so “strict,” “specific,” and “complicated” in my sexual tastes, but it’s not something I control. Unfortunately, we don’t decide what we are or aren’t attracted to. I have kinks, and Attractions that deviate greatly from the norm. Luckily, thanks to Grommr, I’ve sometimes met big guys🐻with whom I’ve been able to fulfill fetishes and kinks( face burping, belly crushing, feederism ), but I haven’t managed to stay in touch with them. What’s also strange is that I’ve never been in love in my entire life, even though I’m 30. I sometimes wonder if I might be aromantic too. But I don’t know. (Maybe I’m one of those people who only experience sexual pleasure with those who have had a deep emotional connection, I don’t know). And you, do you also feel handicapped or restricted by your kinks, fetishes, or specific attractions?

And how do you deal with this on a daily basis? Have you found a way to fix it? (For me, it’s the Grommr app, but I rarely meet big guys 🐻 on it.)

List of my fetishes and kinks.

Gaybears belly 🐻
Burping.
Vore.
Macro, micro.
Feeding.
Belly play
Belly rub 🐻
Belly squashing.
Belly Roll/belly wave
Belly gurgle noise.
Eating like a pig.
To small clothings.
Deep belly button.
Fat Guy teasing 🐻

Not gay, ace, or any of that, But yea, it's incredibly frustrating because like you said, it's Not like it was a choice I made to be attracted to women 300lbs and heavier. And even then, It's a particular shape I like. which is especially irksome when you have friends who WANT to introduce you to a coworker or someone they know, but you already know you're unlikely to be interested.

My advice is to look at your life and asj what interests you have that the kind of person your attracted to Might share.

Oh yeah, I forgot, but I also like big men 🐻, but in a particular way. I like big, well-proportioned men (according to my personal and subjective tastes). And I don't like them if they're "too" fat (if you feel like slapping me, I understand 😆). I'm a pain with my narrow-minded criteria. So, I have this additional problem: even some big men 🐻 don't attract me if they're too fat or poorly proportioned. But yes, I think it's clearly one of the best things to do: reflect on my life and what I want to share with the type of person I'm attracted to. And I also think that when you're romantically attracted to someone, physical appearance becomes secondary. I know that quite a few people are in relationships with guys who weren't physically attractive to them at first, but I'd have to fall in love first for that.