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I am a feedee with all my heart. I am 41 now, and for 30 years I have wanted to get bigger, but I never dared to. A few years ago, I finally chose for myself and went from 80 kilos to 136 kilos. My life finally truly began; my belly started to hang, and I was happy! But I also had doubts because I have a family. Now, I only weigh 114 kilos and I am unhappy in my body. I am a feedee with all my heart and I miss my true self! I want to get back to who I am and weigh at least 150, but I also want to be a good father.".. but i miss myself

I feel where you're coming from, I don't have kids yet, but I do worry about being a mom who is over 320lbs, in that I want to teach my future kids how to lead healthy lives and not miss out on important milestones like riding bikes or camping.

I got some good advice from a user on here, just because I eat and indulge, doesnt mean its what I teach my future kids, and there are so many recreational programs out there that my future kids won't miss out on things, they just may not do them with me.

Is it perfect? No, but I have a partner who is smaller than me, and is capable to do things fie/with our future kid. Will I have more serious limits/stopping points when kids are around? Yes, health is so much more important when folks are relying on you.

First and foremost you have to be your authentic self. Even people who enjoy being fat or appreciate fat in others sadly can still buy into negative societal attitudes and stereotypes of fat people. You are not a bad parent just because you are fat or you gain a bunch of weight! Being a good parent comes in many different shapes, sizes and forms. But being happy with yourself is a great starting point in my opinion.