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It’s remarkable that you have achieved such longevity. Congratulations. As someone who has been present in one form or another since more or less the beginning, FF has become an institution.

I think the problem being described here reaches far beyond this website. Over the past two decades, digital technology has fundamentally reshaped how we relate to one another online. Facebook is the archetypal example. It began as a reliable way to stay connected with friends, near and far. Now it often feels oddly hollow, with little in the way of genuine conversation beyond one or two stalwart voices in most people’s feeds.

I’m no social scientist, just an observer, but it does feel as though the surge of Web 2.0 hit its high water mark more than a decade ago and has been receding ever since. Much of that shift seems tied to the pull of profit, as the priorities of a handful of platforms have come to shape the tone and structure of online interaction itself.

Looking for a "Genuine Connection" of a Fetish site is wild💀💀💀 especially when said "Genuine Connection " is literally just you asking for free content/Fat Chat because f
"Feedees need to show that they are in it for the right reasons"

This. Twenty years ago this site was mostly about people trying to make connections and also had a group focused around plus sized modeling. I don't think "online feeding" was as much of a thing as buying content was since we didn't have the tools for live streaming or door dashing as we do now and sending money to strangers on the internet was far more risky. So there was always a business side, but in the wild west days of the internet, many people were trying to connect with like-minded individuals they couldn't find IRL.

Nowadays? Lots of people expect relationships to be transactional. Folks don't have hobbies, we have side hustles. Friendships have been replaced with follows. Communities are fragmented into echo chambers and filter bubbles. Quality of life is unafordable but we can pay $60 to have a stranger deliver some lukewarm hamburgers. We can talk to anyone anywhere yet we trust nobody, suspect everyone, and are more alone than ever.

This is exactly how big tech wants it too. We're no longer people on the internet, we are products for Google, Facebook, Amazon, etc. to mine for data. The early days of the internet were like the open range period, and just like that it changed forever when everything was fenced in.

I can't hate people for doing what they do here. Life is rough, money is hard to.come by, and I don't have any solutions to offer. Just kinda sad to see tech that brought the world together flipped to turn us all into isolated consumer drones.

Physical attraction is part of intimacy. People have found life partners on websites such as this. Your reaction is symptomatic of exactly the shift I am describing.

I am not disagreeing about the fact that physical attraction is part of intimacy. WhT i am getting at is the lack of consistency and transparency in how people are engaging on these sites.

A large number of users don’t actually provide any clear or recent photos of themselves upfront, yet still expect others to establish attraction early on or move conversations off-platform quickly. In contrast, many people do share content or photos openly, which naturally creates an imbalance in what each person is working with at the start.

That being said it is hard to establish mutual attraction as there can’t really be mutual if only one side is visible before expectations are formed. And when that visibility only happens later, on offsite chats/text mesages, it can understandably lead to mismatched expectations.

So it’s not about being “shallow” or claiming that people cant make life long connections on here. It's about keeping expectations realistic and realizing that the shift comes from people being taken advantage of because of the inherent unbalance mentioned prior. Additionally, there’s often an expectation that access to kink-related content, attention, or conversation should be freely available, while any form of monetization is criticized as “inauthentic” or “not genuine.” That creates a contradiction where one side’s effort and boundaries are dismissed, while still expecting full access to what they provide.

This is what I am also referring to.

There have been some great points brought up. I personally have seen this site as the last beacon for this community. Dimmensions is gone and that was the beacon for decades.

Is everyone looking for deep meaningful connections here? Absolutely not. However, there is a lot of trust building and trust breaking on the internet. People have the right to be safe and post what they want. Photos or not, a lot in their bio or very little.

My original message was tailored after talking to members over the years about this site.

Back when the internet was born there was a much different approach. Yes transactional connections happened but not at the rate we're seeing today. Could be a culture thing, I don't know.

For the people who have wanted deep connection I have seen them leave. Too many broken hearts, or people not mixing with other personalities.

Pearl all of this is beautifully written and highlights so much about the community at large.

No. This will never be like Feabie.

Notice nobody from the cliques on there are here? They'd get torn to shreds for pushing their rhetoric on here...and they know it too.

not doing the same format Feabie doesn't have chat and a forum. It blocks anyone that is critical of the lifestyle and blocks your internet address and FF doesn't. FF is not restrictive toward free speech

Improving this site would take people being more honest and participating in making complete profiles instead of just trolling