General

I agree with all of this. Very well stated.

The fact is this isn't a dating site so much as a fetish appreciation site. So it will always be different, as long as that identity is maintained. Dating is part of that, and why Kita is here personally, but it isn't the totality.

It could be made more clear to newer users that this is not explicitly a dating site. It has functions to facilitate it, but that isn't what it is for.

Part of why Feabie has become such a toxic space is that it is essentially a Dating App/OnlyFans Clone combo. That is where the problems come from. As to how they emerge those problems? Well, they allow a financial incentive to exist within their P2P framework. Users can use the site to engage with feederism from a distance and covertly.

Kita is of the opinion that this covert-ness is the source of the issue, and why we say people need to just learn to deal with the shame in a more healthy way. Being open and proud of the kink, and making spaces where it can be a source of pride (and thus not something to be always hidden and taboo) would do a lot to curb things like beggers and scammers.

Shame is the community killer. Telling people to hide it encourages the shame. People are gonna judge the fetish, that's reality, but resisting and spiting that judgment is way healthier for your mind than acquiescing to the judgment. Kita's perspective as an illeic speaker and a transwoman inform this opinion. Are we mistreated? Yes. But those people are *bad people* for doing so to us. It is much the same with this.

It doesn't help that this website doesn't have a proper blocking feature. You can still see the comments and even avatars of people that you blocked on the forums. I also have heard in the past that blocked people can apparently respond to you. There is one person in particular I don't want to see and they are very active in the community. I can still see their comments on this thread.

I block people and they can't respond to me

I pointed this out on Feabie and was banned from it. Apparently Grommer doesn't like criticism

Yes, message limits are limited and Feabie response to messaging it to ban people, In a lot of ways Feabie is hypocritical and has double standards since they do have a section for personal pictures aka porn

Plus Feabie allows this which is a rule on Fantasy Feeder. Feabie allows porn and has a tab which give people click on called "personal pictures". 6. No pornography
A degree of nudity is allowed on this site, but only if it's tastefully done. Photographs of bare breasts and buttocks are permitted, but no hardcore pornography, erections (clothed or otherwise), masturbation (real or implied), or exposed pubic areas.--Feabie allows pictures, but you request permission from the members. Feabie is like

www.grokio.com/ This gets extreme feabie is a part of the grokio community. The FAQ frequently asked questions about grokioa is defunct and not functional. Hmmm… can't reach this page
support.grokiolabs.com’s server IP address could not be found.
Try:

Checking the connection
Checking the proxy, firewall, and DNS settings ---Also none of the sites support vpn To be continued....

Feabie has: Replying to comments is not possible; only liking them is, Server crashes are frequent, Status likes on Feabie.com do not show up on notification, which bars you from knowing the responses of people. Too many notifications and constant reminders may be irritating. There's a lot of sex workers on there, as well as girls asking' for food or content. Popular mainly in the USA. Limited search possibilities for the free members. victimization, politics, activism, and mental illness. The ladies can be real mean to the fellas and the mods aren't doing' nothing' bout it. But if a guy says something' bad about a lady, boom, seven-day ban.

If you really don’t want this site to be compared towards Feabie. Don’t do what Feabie does, did, or doing. It’s as simple as that.