The fact is this isn't a dating site so much as a fetish appreciation site. So it will always be different, as long as that identity is maintained. Dating is part of that, and why Kita is here personally, but it isn't the totality.
It could be made more clear to newer users that this is not explicitly a dating site. It has functions to facilitate it, but that isn't what it is for.
Part of why Feabie has become such a toxic space is that it is essentially a Dating App/OnlyFans Clone combo. That is where the problems come from. As to how they emerge those problems? Well, they allow a financial incentive to exist within their P2P framework. Users can use the site to engage with feederism from a distance and covertly.
Kita is of the opinion that this covert-ness is the source of the issue, and why we say people need to just learn to deal with the shame in a more healthy way. Being open and proud of the kink, and making spaces where it can be a source of pride (and thus not something to be always hidden and taboo) would do a lot to curb things like beggers and scammers.
Shame is the community killer. Telling people to hide it encourages the shame. People are gonna judge the fetish, that's reality, but resisting and spiting that judgment is way healthier for your mind than acquiescing to the judgment. Kita's perspective as an illeic speaker and a transwoman inform this opinion. Are we mistreated? Yes. But those people are *bad people* for doing so to us. It is much the same with this.
It could be made more clear to newer users that this is not explicitly a dating site. It has functions to facilitate it, but that isn't what it is for.
Part of why Feabie has become such a toxic space is that it is essentially a Dating App/OnlyFans Clone combo. That is where the problems come from. As to how they emerge those problems? Well, they allow a financial incentive to exist within their P2P framework. Users can use the site to engage with feederism from a distance and covertly.
Kita is of the opinion that this covert-ness is the source of the issue, and why we say people need to just learn to deal with the shame in a more healthy way. Being open and proud of the kink, and making spaces where it can be a source of pride (and thus not something to be always hidden and taboo) would do a lot to curb things like beggers and scammers.
Shame is the community killer. Telling people to hide it encourages the shame. People are gonna judge the fetish, that's reality, but resisting and spiting that judgment is way healthier for your mind than acquiescing to the judgment. Kita's perspective as an illeic speaker and a transwoman inform this opinion. Are we mistreated? Yes. But those people are *bad people* for doing so to us. It is much the same with this.
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