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So, I've always been into bigger women for as long as I can remember. I've never been interested in dating that much before, but a motorcycle accident made me rethink the way my life is going.

That being said, I had a question for those of you that are in relationships:
How did you meet someone that is ok with being big or into feedism ?

I don't want to impose this lifestyle on someone who'd be unhappy or unwilling to go along with it, know what I mean ?

Best regards,
Oscar

I met my Ex-husband on here when I was 18 and we were together for 11 years. He was a BHM and was fine with me gaining.

My current partner I actually met on OKCupid. I found the dating site was pretty kink friendly. My partner didn't know much about feedism before we met but they were attracted to plus size women. I actually brought them with me to a feabie meet and they learnt more about feedism and they realised they really enjoy the softer side of feedism now too. We took it slow.

It can be scary but it's really important to communicate with your partner no matter what kink you are into.

Yeah I don't want to put someone in a situation that they wouldn't want to be in. I live in France currently, it's not really a well known thing here, or at least not that I'm aware of...

Thanks for the advice !

You might be surprised with how many people are into it in your area.

May be worth looking at other websites too such as Fetlife, Feabie, Curvage. Tumblr has a really big community too although its a little trickier to find accounts in recent years.

I’ve definitely seen people from France on Feabie so that may be worth a shot.

I hope you find what you’re looking for!

I got with my partner who I kept this part of me a secret from as it was way before I accepted this part of myself, 18 years ago. If you can be honest and have a partner who’s interested in it from day one definitely do that. It can be problematic if not, it’s been difficult for me. I came out to my husband and he doesn’t understand it but I’m lucky he’s fine with me exploring this part of me online, but it’s not the same I imagine as having someone you can experiment in real life with.

Good luck! 🤞