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Well, I can’t say I haven’t also made those kinds of online connections. That is always a possibility when coming back here or Feabie. The temptation is strong. Hopefully you’re at least in a situation where there’s no shame involved.

Alas, I have no advice, but to say, I am a long-time sailor in the very same boat. I'm lucky insofar as I otherwise have a full and varied life, but this one vital aspect of my identity has existed outside of my relationship, and almost entirely online.

That which is rare is considered precious. We are unicorns.

I love that. And I will treasure the connection we had as such

Basically I have had this fat thing most of my life. Started during puberty and it has been part of my life ever since. I find anything fat related really fascinating.

Been alone this fat prererence, meaning on real life.

Always liked chubby, plump & fat women. Never been a feeder thought but I love to see woman enjoying good food & deserts.

Also soft round bellies on woman are soo sensual & sexy. Never had chance to touch or play with female bellies really. Wishing that someday it will become reality.

I have myself grown from skinny to quite fat myself. Started to enjoying my own soft belly growing bigger, softer & heavier.

Would love to find a female fa or female feeder but I know that both are rare on real life, especially female feeders are rare & ratio on female feeder to feedee is really small. Plenty of feedees available on single female feeder.

Not giving up thought. I keep my eyes open & maybe someday I will stumble on plump woman who enjoys belly play likes food but she is also Fa or even female feeder.

So here’s my insight based on personal experience with this particular topic.

I have had an interest with bigger ladies since I was in my preteens in which was also the time that I first discovered the Feedism kink as well (but a bit slightly later). There was something that was very erotic about chubbier bellies and deep belly buttons, especially with the fact that there is a thing that some people would actually want to make themselves bigger to achieve such a thing? That lowkey got me hooked into it.

Now I don’t really ever engage with the kink of feeding and weight gain in my dating life anymore as I used to, due to some bad experiences that almost ruined a past relationship of mine (and even within the community itself). Unless of course the potential partner of mine is actually into Feedism as well, really the only thing how it would work. Plus I also have learned the reality that not all bigger people are the biggest eaters as what’s depicted in media and fetish content. However though with my interest in bellies - that’s not changed.

In my dating life now I do bring Feedism up whenever a dater and I talked about sexual interests. But that’s basically it, ultimately it’s up to her if she wants to practice or invest in the weight gain kink. Even if she doesn’t want to do that, I am personally more than happy to embrace her current body/size right now and find other ways to please each other! Even if this means lots and lots of belly rubbing and love!

This is it, isn’t it? it’s finding what works for you and ultimately what you can and can’t compromise on and what you need to live a happy life while sustaining healthy relationships.

I would take some occasionally belly rubs as a starting point 😫

Absolutely. And sure it’s going to be different from one person to the next for who you date and end up being in a relationship with. However there are some things that someone should be able to accept certain things and interests about yourself, take my interests for bellies for an example.

If they are willing to accept that from you then that’s great! If not then it’s a potential dealbreaker.