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JN_TumLover56:
So I don’t really know how to start off with this but I have to get something a little bit off my chest. It may come off a little bit rant-like so apologies in advance.

Not too long ago I came across and read this article from Maclean’s Magazine, it’s a bit of a read so do bare in mind.

macleans.ca/longforms/the-end-of-fat/

It talked a little bit about GLP-1s and how they have changed/changing the world. The article didn’t villainize GLP-1s but also didn’t romanticize them either, I guess you could say that it was a more “nuanced” take to say the least? Either way from what it was talking about how that one day they might end up becoming more normalized and more accessible in the foreseeable future, which really makes me think that could we actually now be facing the beginning of the end of an era of fat as we know it?

Now there were discussions about this on this site beforehand and for the most part we shouldn’t be pressing the panic button on whether or not that bigger people will still exist and that a feedist community like ours will remind us that it’s a clear choice people made for this preference and kink. And I agree people should do what is best for themselves and their body either be weight gain or loss.

Okay sounds decent alright yes? But the problem is that the moment I step away from this community I’m in the world of glorified weight loss in regard to health, beauty and being acceptable to society because you took care of yourself. Then when people are doing something else to find their happiness (let’s say via body positivity) they get slammed labels like “delusional” or “brainwashed” or any negative-toned buzzword. Then they also see someone like me - a guy who is open for being attracted towards bigger women would be treated like we’re part of the problem, an outlier and not the norm. Only to find myself back to a site like this to “feel safe” as if it’s some sort of coping mechanism.

But… you know what, yeah of course we’re not normal. We are outliers. Men and women who simp on people’s unhealthy indulgences, lifestyles and (for some of us) even pay for it! But at the same time is that truthfully the worst thing about someone like me? Sure there are horror stories and a lot of bad faith actors, but I also like to think that there are others who are not that stupid when it comes to having this preference.

Now I am someone who really does like bigger women, it will be that way for pretty much the rest of my days. Lately I’ve started to become a bit more accepting of GLP-1s a bit more even if I may still have a slight fit towards them. However I’ve also mentioned before in other posts that I worry that one day having a preference like this will eventually become unacceptable. Sure to many cultures it can be a bit taboo, but to one day be something that’s completely outlawed? Yeah I wouldn’t want that to be the reality that I have to live with. I’ve seen people making crude statements and comments wanting people like me gone - all because we are “normalizing what shouldn’t be” the norm in society.

TL;DR… It ain’t always easy to be attracted to bigger women, especially now that we’re in the GLP-1 era. Sorry for my little rant!

Fatgirlbelly:
Ok so as someone who’s been on a GLP-1 for a year, it isn’t what the media makes it out to be.

And before anyone comes for me…

If you’ve seen my profile you’ll know I’ve lost 50lbs and I had to for health reasons. I’m still big, I’m 210lbs. And on the highest dose I’ve fluctuated between 210-215 for months.

So it doesn’t magically make you lose weight. But what it has done for me is help regulate my PCOS, fibromyalgia & pain. Even my skin is better. So a GLP 1 is only as good for weight loss as you’re willing to put into it. The health problems that come with it are people being idiots and losing weight too quickly.

So will fatness disappear as a result of GLP-1s? Almost certainly not. In the same vein that gyms exist - governments haven’t forced us all to go to get “fitter”. Also, gyms and glp1’s are not suitable for everyone.

I hope this adds a bit of balanced context

Fatgirlbelly:
Ok so as someone who’s been on a GLP-1 for a year, it isn’t what the media makes it out to be.

And before anyone comes for me…

If you’ve seen my profile you’ll know I’ve lost 50lbs and I had to for health reasons. I’m still big, I’m 210lbs. And on the highest dose I’ve fluctuated between 210-215 for months.

So it doesn’t magically make you lose weight. But what it has done for me is help regulate my PCOS, fibromyalgia & pain. Even my skin is better. So a GLP 1 is only as good for weight loss as you’re willing to put into it. The health problems that come with it are people being idiots and losing weight too quickly.

So will fatness disappear as a result of GLP-1s? Almost certainly not. In the same vein that gyms exist - governments haven’t forced us all to go to get “fitter”. Also, gyms and glp1’s are not suitable for everyone.

I hope this adds a bit of balanced context

Fatgirlbelly:
Ok so as someone who’s been on a GLP-1 for a year, it isn’t what the media makes it out to be.

And before anyone comes for me…

If you’ve seen my profile you’ll know I’ve lost 50lbs and I had to for health reasons. I’m still big, I’m 210lbs. And on the highest dose I’ve fluctuated between 210-215 for months.

So it doesn’t magically make you lose weight. But what it has done for me is help regulate my PCOS, fibromyalgia & pain. Even my skin is better. So a GLP 1 is only as good for weight loss as you’re willing to put into it. The health problems that come with it are people being idiots and losing weight too quickly.

So will fatness disappear as a result of GLP-1s? Almost certainly not. In the same vein that gyms exist - governments haven’t forced us all to go to get “fitter”. Also, gyms and glp1’s are not suitable for everyone.

I hope this adds a bit of balanced context

JN_TumLover56:
Hey you won’t get any judgements from me because I’ve always appreciate your well-thought posts and opinions. And honestly it’s nice to hear from the perspective of someone who’s looking after their wellbeing. I mean THIS is the nuance that I am looking for!

However as for governments, I have heard about the Metabo Law in Japan where there’s a mandatory waistline measurement to keep their obesity rates low. While I don’t think there’s a penalty, I’ve heard some people may or may not be giving a hard time to get them the consultation to lose weight. Here’s hoping that something “strict” like this doesn’t end up taking over western society.

Fatgirlbelly:
Thank you! I appreciate that. I want to be as open as possible and hope that helps others who may be struggling with conflict too because for a long time, I felt ashamed that I wasn’t being authentic in this space, and although it’s “fantasy” feeder, I think its important we can incorporate it as healthily for our minds and bodies as we can. That way we can enjoy it in a more fulfilling way.

As for the future, I can’t see there being a disappearing act of bigger people without big changes being made in our society. I suppose time will tell