BigBallBellyGirl:I wear them overnight, because I don't want to have an accident when it takes me forever to get up. I've recently gained a lot of weight though, and will need to size up significantly. I'd appreciate any recommendations for USBBW-, appreciate products
Dayitme isn't as challenging, but I'm ever-aware of how slow I am. I don't take chances when I feel the need.
OxfordBoy:Oh I see. I mean the max bariatric brief/diaper size available has def increased over the years, but if I hear of a particularly good one yes I will ofc let you know
You seem very calm & matter-of-fact about your need for them now - would I be right in thinking you also wear during the day now too, just in case?
And appropriately free of any guilt or anxiety in using them whenever you're not sure if you can make it to the bathroom in time.
(Which if it takes you a lot longer to get up now, is presumably happening more often.)
Absolutely NOT worth the risk of a fall by hurrying at your new weight!
People can be so blinded by shame that they do really stupid things & get themselves seriously hurt. Part of being human I guess - animals don't do that kind of silliness.
And I hope your partner has done whatever they can to ease your worries on this (& provide the physical care you need too). IMO love is the best cure for shame!
BigBallBellyGirl:Yes, thank you! I married an incredible man. He's my best friend first and foremost, and while he's my feeder, there's much more to us than that. We love music, share an interest in ALL kinds of film (horror, Golden Age, action, international), and are learning French together (him more successfully than me).
We have renovated our home to accommodate my size (after a brief battle with our HOA, which basically requires permission to breathe). While he loves my extreme obesity, he would be fully supportive if I declared tomorrow my goal weight loss was several hundred pounds. For him, the diaper need is just another accommodation, but he's also very helpful when I need to get up
OxfordBoy:Wonderful! He sounds great - exactly who you need to keep a physically-slower life fun, interesting & enjoyable!
And strong too, if he's good at helping you up these days lol
It's very lucky that you're both film buffs as well - if you can get a lot of intellectual stimulation from films, then even if you become homebound you'll never run out of entertainment!
A happy-to-help-you-lose-whatever-you-decide attitude is also the perfect proof that a feeder truly loves & respects his partner IMO - not surprised you 'put a ring on it'!
Are you planning to lose any weight as things stand, or continue on as you are?
Either way, I hope you live your best & happiest life together - whatever that looks like for you guys
PS And sorry - but what does HOA stand for lol?!
Yes, I adore him, and he consistently treats me with love and respect. We have much more in common than this aspect of our lives, which is vital for a "forever" relationship.
Our HOA is our Homeowners Association. While we own our place, we're part of a "community" that requires monthly dues for maintenance and upkeep of public spaces, including landscaping, the clubhouse, dumpsters and recycling, and the pool area. Definitely benefits, but the downside is that any major modifications, even if inside, require homeowners board approval. It can be a pretty oppressive, intrusive process, and when we made some changes, they argued that our accessibility updates were not based on a permanent medical need. Fortunately, they ultimately backed down before we had to hire an attorney, and now our home is much easier for me to navigate.
