General

I'm asexual myself, and I've always wondered how many other people in this scene fall under that umbrella.

I've heard a lot of people on here talking about how only bellies or the idea of getting fatter gets them off, or that they prefer masturbating to having sex, or that sex isn't on their radar compared with things like feeding and indulgence.

For some people the idea of their partner being so big they become 'inaccessible' is really appealing, and I've met people who didn't care if sex was involved or not so long as they were fattening up.

For all that, I don't find a lot of people identifying themselves as asexual (in part the site doesn't make it easy since there's unfortunately no way to signal that you're straight, bi, gay or lesbian AND asexual).

So how important are penetrative or other conventional sex acts to you?

So I identify as queer and prefer women. However online I do also enjoy chatting with men about sexual things pertaining to my size. I do not however, wish to have penetrative sex of any kind and much prefer to masturbate. I don’t identify as asexual but the only thing that turns me on is the thought of me getting fatter.

I'd describe myself as having a lower libido than average, but I wouldn't say I'm asexual.

As for how important sex is -- I like it, but I wouldn't say it's the most important thing or that I absolutely need it.

This describes Kita but she does not use the q word, and she has soured on discussing it with men. Would have remained open to it, but the general mistreatment she experiences from them often (likely because she is a transwoman) basically killed any desire to engage with them.

Im kinky but sex repulsed, weird combo.

I prefer sex with a fatter women whether they be chubby, bbw, or ssbbw. Not into being asexual.

I don't really like sex but masturbation is fine, I'm also t4t. I think fat stuff is all I need in life to be satisfied lol

I have a lot of kinks and fetishes related to big bellies, and I also think I'm asexual or graysexual. I've noticed the same things as you: the act of penetration, whether anal or oral (not vaginal because I'm gay), is really at the very bottom of my pleasure hierarchy and gives me little to no pleasure. I actually get more pleasure from just masturbating. I've often wondered why I'm like this, and I think I might have some answers.

The fact that I developed my belly fetish very young, as a child, and my sexuality obviously wasn't fully developed yet, but I already adored big bellies, and this fetish took up so much space in my mind that, as I grew up and reached adolescence, it completely eclipsed "vanilla" or "conventional" sexual relationships. I wasn't interested in them at all, and I preferred bellies, almost like an obsession. Then other kinks and fetishes related to big bellies were added and accumulated over time, making me completely forget about conventional sexual relationships. I think that if I hadn't developed this obsession with big bellies, maybe I wouldn't have been asexual or graysexual, because my attention would have been focused on that, and not on the bellies. I don't know, it's just a guess.