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Does anyone has any advice on becoming a feedee?

There's no one way to be a feedee. Some feedees gain, and some don't. Some try to stay healthy and active, while others try to move as little as possible. Some want to be as fat as possible, while others only want a little fluff. The best thing you can do is mess around, find out, and have fun.

Just try to be safe when you are messing around. A lot of people throw themselves into this lifestyle full tilt and get sick. They almost always give up because they are doing too much.

Makes sense honestly, appreciate the advice

I think the best advice I've ever read (it was on tumblr, I can't remember who said it, but all credit to them!!) was: "you have to be okay with being fat on your own".
In my opinion this is one of the most important things to remember for people who are new to this kink- and especially those that have been skinny their whole life.
for feedees/ gainers this kink isn't something we can "leave in the bedroom", this is something that will, at some point, impact your whole life. of course not every feedee gains weight/ wants to gain weight, but if that's something you want, you have to be okay with the fact that you will be a fat person.

And I'm not saying this to discourage anyone- I'm a feedee, I'm intentionally gaining weight, I am fat. But I have been chubby my whole life and I know what it's like to live my life as a fat person (although I'm still on the smaller side of things!).

So basically- do what feels right to you but do check-in with yourself along the way, make informed decisions, start slowly and, last but not least, have fun with it!

This is incredible advice you quoted, and I believe it completely.

During my intentionally gaining and 50+ pounds packed on fairly quickly to mostly my belly, but slightly everywhere. I felt so at peace when I was around my wife at home eating together all the time and enjoying our company or out in public when we didn’t see anyone we knew it was fantastic. But when it came time to be with some of our couples friends or even my friends separate from my wife - just anyone who knew me or my wife prior to our big weight gains I felt insecure and kind of embarrassed. Know this may have been it was still very recent and quite a big change as well as knowing I created this massive gut sticking out in front of me intentionally (so there was that little forbidden secret to it).

During this time we kind of kept to ourselves and distanced ourselves from family and friends not intentionally but it just felt better with our new fattening ways enjoying our time together. This was the hardest part of the reality but I thought to myself if we were to move away where no one knew us and everybody just related to us as the fat couple from the start it may have been different and I may have been 300+ lbs. in no time and my wife may have been the same. Newer friends or even old acquaintances it didn’t bother me to show how much I kept gaining or how fat I was getting with ill fitting clothing now or even field questions about how I packed on so much weight. It didn’t have the same feelings for me as it did with friends I knew for a long time or family, where I didn’t even want to talk about it or get together with them.

I even relished in the times I was able to wear a T- shirt that was now way too small on my gut that made me look like I was 20 months pregnant with my tan lower git peeking out a good 6” out the bottom which I obviously couldn’t tell be seeing but only by the cool draft. I would go through a grocery store a few extra miles where we used to live and not the local grocery store, I still knew several cashiers and clerks there and I would come through the line with an obscene amount of Ben n Jerry’s ice creams, cookies, chocolates, bags of chips & baked goods - a rather obscene amount. As I got to a woman checker that had been there for years and I hadn’t seen in sometime, she said hi, how have you been, I haven’t seen you for a while. We had quick conversation while she was recording the items, 8 Ben n berries pints go by, and I say “they force you to buy 4 at a time for the discount”, she says, “yes, I know, but you have 8”, I say, yes double the discount” leaning over with my gut displayed on the counter now handing her another pint. She laughs! She asks how my wife is been and I said, “really good, a lot of these snacks are for her” as I can only imagine what she must be thinking of how much I have changed in a relatively short amount of time. I am sure she has told other employees at her store as well as replayed this encounter to many people she knows with the potential shock I must have created. This type of a situation for some reason I not only don’t have a problem with I almost want to evoke some questions, comments or teasing about how fat and big of a guy I packed on and how out of control my full cart with calorie laden snacks must have looked to her.

I wonder the difference, if anyone else knows and if anyone has felt similar ways like this in these encounters?