Lifestyle tips

Recently last year, I met up with a feedee overseas online from another country. For privacy reasons, I won't mention her name or where she is from, but I met her online and for awhile it was good. We did video sessions, and we sort of fell in love. However, by the time fall arrived, and on one of the days of the year where its suppose to be me being showered with gifts on my birthday, she wanted more and more. Me being on a budget, when I could not meet her demands, we had to part ways. I got rejected of course of all days on my birthday. I am not saying this is a bad lifestyle, but its not for the faint of heart who have a budget and bills. To the guys out there, if you want to be into something like this as a feeder, like I did, be very prepared to give your bank account and wallet a serious diet as you will be constantly broke. However to all the guys out there that have a disposable income and are wealthy, you will do very well in finding someone in this lifestyle and its pretty satisfying. That is all I want to say from my experiences as a feeder. Best of luck with whoever can find their dream feedee, but also that dream partner in this lifestyle. If you have thick skin and can endure some rejections, for 10 nos, you will at some point get 1 yes. Best of luck to those wannabe feeders and to those feedees who are looking. Happy Memorial Day!!

I hate to break it to you, but that's not what a healthy relationship looks like. That sounds more like findomme, or at best a sugar baby. Basically, it's a transactional relationship between a customer and content creator, not a romantic one. You say that you fell in love, but people who are in love don't just abandon each other the second you stop funding their expensive lifestyle for a month. If she told you she loved you, she was just telling you what you wanted to hear to keep you on the hook, unfortunately.

A good feedist relationship (and I promise there are still people looking for this) looks exactly like a vanilla relationship, but with feeding added in as a bonus. That means you're going on actual dates in person with someone you share an emotional connection to, and hopefully share some interests outside of feeding. There are people who can make a long-distance relationship work, but the goal is almost always to meet in person or even relocate to be together. And no, constantly sending money is not a requirement.

Next time you're talking to a feedee, you should be careful and vet her. Tell her the type of relationship goals you eventually want if it works out, and see if she wants the same thing. Tell her you don't feel comfortable sending money right away, and want to spend time getting to know her first. Then, actually get to know her as a person, not just a feedee. What does she like to do for fun? What's her family like? What are her dreams and aspirations in life? Don't make it sound like a job interview though. If you make her wait at least a week or 2 before sending anything, then you will know whether she's only interested in the money or wants something serious. If she just looks at you like a walking ATM, she will get frustrated and tell you to stop wasting her time, but Real Ones will be happy that you are interested in them, and not just their body. GL

Thank you for the suggestions and tips, but I am not looking for any. I was only merely pointing out from my own experiences, and I already got that sense she was looking for a sugar daddy toward the end which is why I got out of it. Secondly, I am only merely stating from my own experiences and giving a warning to those who are not experienced in this realm and want to try it, especially the guys, but thank you anyway. Having been married and divorced, you will be paying money one way or another, so when you think about it, even in a relationship things can be transactional. I also knew that she is online and overseas that is the risk you take when meeting people online. It is what it is, and have since moved on to other things.

I responded before I checked your profile and saw your age, but decided to leave it in case anybody less jaded and cynical decided to take your advice. There are people in their teens and 20's who grew up on social media and think that that's how romance is supposed to work, because they have no real frame of reference. Most people are looking for some kind of emotional connection and fulfillment, and paying a stranger to pretend to care about you over the internet won't give that, and will be bad for their mental health if that's what they expect. A relationship based only on money where you're just using each other is going to feel empty and meaningless because it is. If you're fine with that, then more power to you, but it should still be made clear. I understand that nothing in life is free, but that only makes it transactional if you boil down intangible things like happiness and self-esteem to a service you can pay for. The thing is, you can't buy those things this way. It's like the difference between owning your own home or staying in a hotel. They are both forms of shelter that you pay for, but they don't feel the same.

I can agree with that. A spade is a spade. Everybody is different. Some guys in my own age bracket believe it or not and even older in their 60s, have tried this for the very first time. Feederism is just not a everyday lifestyle for everybody. My closest friend I told him about this lifestyle and he was surprised to even learn about people wanting to gain a lot of weight. Then he came to his own conclusion its a fetish and lifestyle choice. Anyway, good input on your side, I agree. At least I can say I gave it a try and got some experience at it, and have moved on. You may say its not the same, but as I said we have our own opinions and conclusions in what we think, and so I will just leave it like that and not respond. I also mainly put this post up because there are some women online here in the past that have wanted to guys to treat them online and buy their content, as you said a transactional thing. The downside is that you can get your emotions wrapped up really fast that you find your bank account emptied nearly from being all into this. It is what it is. Glad I got out of it. Just enjoy life as a foodie, fa, and chatting on here with other people. Have a great weekend there.

All done with my responses here and moving on with enjoying my upcoming weekend. Have a good weekend there.