CatgirlEva:
So yeah, I want to be the kind of fat person who's big, not ashamed of it, and knows she's getting fatter. But I don't know how to go about this other than the obvious. Like I want to show people that yeah, fat people can be happy too! Y'know?
Canuck:
since becoming very large, whenever i am in a new situation or environment, i try to project confidence. i smile big, i greet people, i try to be upbeat. let me tell you, it's not how i always feel - it's more of a "fake it until you make it" kind of behaviour.
i basically try to avoid shrinking, being part of the wallpaper. i am definitely not flaunting my body, as others have suggested, but i want to project that i am not ashamed of being fat, i am not trying to hide myself, or minimize myself.
usually i find if you greet someone with joy, they will reflect that back at you (for the most part... there are always miserable people, who are the exceptions).
I love this response. I'm nowhere near as big as I'd like to be yet but I'm definitely at least chubby and I try to do the same. I'm not much for "flaunting my body" myself unless it's with my partner and/or in a very specific type of environment (that doesn't have to be fat-focused, for the record). Being trans in a very visible way, I try not to draw a lot of attention to my body, but when it comes to my fatness I like to let it show or at least try not to hide it.
And most importantly, if anyone tries to criticize what or how much I eat without good reason (i.e. anyone other than someone who genuinely cares for my wellbeing and likely is aware and accepting of my weight goals), they're getting ignored or I'm not taking it seriously. I'm not afraid to eat my fill in most scenarios and I don't expect that to change. I show my genuine excitement when people offer to share food, and one thing that leads to for sure is people sharing more food with me!