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Who in your life knows about your fetish? Are people curious why you are gaining so quickly and often?

I don't want to gain weight myself, but I love big bellies and heavy-set men, and I enjoy feeding and stuffing such men. Apart from the men I’ve fed, no one knows about this fetish, and I have no intention of talking about it; I have nothing to gain and no reason to do so. For me, it remains something intimate and personal, and I am under no obligation to discuss it even though I know my family is open-minded enough to accept it, despite the fact that they would likely feel uncomfortable and shocked if they found out.

The only people who know are the "feedees" and friends I’ve met on Grommr.

My wife is the only person that knows I have this fetish. She knows I've been purposely gaining weight, and she knows how much I love her body as well since she's a big woman. I don't feel the need to tell others, I'm sure my coworkers have noticed I gained some weight since I first started but a good number of my coworkers are on the heavier side and probably just keep the comments to themselves. Once you see someone daily, the weight probably doesn't shock others anymore up to a point. Now if I was to see my grandmother who I haven't seen in 16 years, I know she would probably have to take a double take and would probably want me to lose weight since she was concerned about the weight I gained when I first joined this community when I was in my early 20's and I'm about 100 lbs heavier now than I was when I first joined the community.

If you're asking if I'm telling people I'm feeding my bf so he reaches 300lbs, no I'm not.

i don't discuss fetishes with people that i am not engaging in the fetish with, period.

most of my weight gain happened over 3 or 4 years, and it raised a lot of eyebrows with friends and family. i let them know about my lifestyle change (quitting the gym, enjoying the finer things in life like good food and drink), and that i was content with my body as it was.

if any of them ever suspected something else they never said anything.

a few people who knew me in the community (like exes who were my feedees when i was a thin feeder) clearly knew something was up! but i only kept in touch with 3 or 4 people who knew about feedism and knew me when i was in shape.

Almost all of my friends know, I dont feel ashamed about this fetish at all