Torchcacti:
I don't intend to contradict anything anyone has said so far, but for myself, I have felt like the possibility of finding love and kink fulfillment to be wildly rare. This might be an unpopular opinion in this space, and I understand why, but I think if you’ve found love, that’s worth holding on to. Platforms like this and Feabie make it possible to connect with people and feel like we aren’t aliens for being into what we’re into, and that’s so important. But I think it also exaggerates the possibility of having it all. There are some people who have found it all, and I admire them (envy, really) but if I’ve found love in a vanilla situation, I don’t find it worth it to throw it away and try to find that one person whose way of being a feedist matches mine. And I also don’t feel like it makes sense to leave these spaces since I’m always going to come back to try to scratch the itch. So maybe that’s being kind of trapped in terms of sexuality, but 90% of my life is happy. I hope at least that much for everyone here.
I felt very similarly in my long term relationship. If there's love there, it's worth pursuing. We, unfortunately, broke up but not necessarily because of feedism and more about value alignment and the future. It would be great to integrate kink in my future relationship, but I think I'm looking more now for bare minimum the ability to talk about it and integrate it the bedroom via fantasy or talking, even if the weight gain / feeding aspects are absent.
At the end of the day, we live our lives for ourselves. Nobody can choose for you. Thanks for your perspective Torchcacti.
