1) What Sippy said, I think she was bang on.
2) Odds are that she is not going to get dramatically upset about a modest change in your body. You could gain fifteen to twenty pounds, go up a size in clothes, and see how you feel about it. That gain also would make the conversation less theoretical and more concrete. (Also, who knows, that much gain might satisfy you, for now).
Good luck sorting through this, not at all easy I know.
14 years
