General

Can I just say, for like the thousandth time lol, that anyone, man or woman, who encounters someone on this site who is rude or disrespectful, could you PLEASE inform the mods.

The more people who do this rather then just ignore it, will mean we'll be better able to pinpoint the worst offenders and remove them from our happy little community.

QFT. It'll also give you the satisfaction of knowing they'll dealt with- what's not to love?

What I don't understand is when people leave here (or anywhere) because they encounter a few people who are not kind to them, or not nice, etc.

It doesn't matter how many people are not compatible with you, it matters how many there are.

And if you run into 100 people who are not your kind, and leave, you may miss the 101st person who could have been your soulmate.

Also, don't limit yourself to one site. If you are a gainer, or whatever, place an ad on Craig's List, or wherever. Most of the people may not understand. A few may criticize you. But you may get that one person who is into weight gain. Don't forget, not everyone knows about FF, and not everyone knows there are people who like to gain. If you are not a gainer, and just a BBW, you can still find someone.

What he said.

I just hope people find exactly who they want on here. Ive been on and off this site for 4 yrs and havent really found anything yet. But im not giving up anytime soon!

The chat here is fairly easy to use and fun, yup. Some hours are noisier than others though, so if you want some more noise/quiet time, try at another hour if the current one isn't working out, haha.

If the men wan't you to lose weight in order to date you, then they aren't really into YOU. Men and women both should never get involved with a person then expect them to change. Either you like someone for who they are from the start, or don't bother. Trying to change someone, even if they do succumb to the change, will just casue resentment down the road.

I understand you FlowerGoddess when you talk about its so difficult to find someone that fits with the guidelines everyone have here, but if you're thinking about this problem, I have to add to this problem the distance and language (many few people want to talk with someone living sooooo far like I live.

You are so lucky!

I'm jumping in quite late, but I fully agree. And it's not just this site. Where I live, there are not many BBWs and there is no size acceptance at all. The few BBWs out there don't even know there are men who like big women. They don't accept their bodies and most of them are looking into WLS surgery...

But I keep hoping that one day I will find my match!