It's an abusive relationship, pure and simple. Though he was a feeder, this doesn't reflect as negatively on the fetish and its participants who go about it in a considerate, consensual way.
I'm a bit alarmed that blame would be pushed on the woman, though, for staying in the relationship- do you know how hard it is to just get away from someone you've got feelings for? You can excuse a lot of crap (that you normally wouldn't) just because you're friends or more with someone.
If you're going to blame anyone here, I'd say put most- if not all- of the blame on the one who disrespected their partner's concerns and desires regarding their own body in favor of sexual desire.
13 years
