She would be average-sized. We fall in love. I start telling her (as casually as I can manage) about Feedism.
"Oh yeah, I know what that is!" she says. "I've always wanted to do that but I figured it would be too hard to find a guy if I was fat...but if YOU'RE into it, that's perfect!"
And then we each empower each other to live the dream.
The details--her being dominant, me being dominant, neither, force feeding or not, humiliation or not--don't matter to me, as long as she gets as fat as she wants.
11 years