okapi wrote:
I like talking about sex! To a large extent that's why I'm here. If I wanted to seriously discuss computer programming, martial arts, board games or exotic rodents I'd find a more appropriate forum. It is possible to talk about sex and feederism without getting all creepy though, you just have to know how and when. I doubt "im gonna feed you 53 cupcakes an do u from behind" from a faceless stranger is going to win anyone over.
Erm, that would SO do it for me (without the txt spelling, anyway)!!
Even aside from the fact it would be awesome *cough* a remark like that would make me laugh AND is so much more interesting than "hi, how are you doing today?" I hate questions like that - basically it makes you feel like you've got to come up with some interesting and witty content when they've given you absolutely nothing about themselves to work with.
But also totally agreed regarding talking about sex. This is a fetish/sexual preference site, so there's no point trying to beat around the bush (unless that turns you on) that most of us who are here for the feederism aspect will probably want to talk about that with people who share our interests.
There are however lots of people on the site who aren't into feederism. Nothing wrong with that, but if you treat the site as a place to make general friends or as a dating agency when you're not into feederism, you may find that people appear creepy when they're not.
I was wondering what makes a guy "creepy" if he talks about the subject matter of the site? Launching into invasive/personal/dumb questions of a sexual nature before you've established that they'd be welcome is probably creepy. I'd say it's only creepy if the person just seeks fap material without thought to the real person who they hope will provide it.
Other times I imagine unwelcome or inappropriate questions/messages/approaches are down to sheer gaucheness or poor social skills rather than creepiness.
This is a very unfocused post. It's too hot to think straight.