My girlfriend is awesome. I love her and would do anything for her. I'm 21 and she's 22. We've been together since high school. She has every positive attribute that anyone could want in a girl (unless you're looking for a "bad bitch"
. She is VERY smart, sweet, beautiful, caring, loves me unconditionally as do I love her. I would do anything for her.
The problem is that although I'm very happy with her, I don't know if I could be happier. I've had other girlfriends but none as serious as this. I'm a one girl kind of guy and have no interest in changing that. So, because of that, I haven't really "been around" or seen what else is out there. I don't mean sleep around, just meet girls and see who I'm compatible with. Not necessarily by my physical taste and theirs, but all around. A few points in relation to this: I've never lived with a girl, never been in a relationship that involved sex regularly (she is saving it for marriage, so we don't have sex), I felt a little rushed by our mutual friends to ask her out back in high school so I don't feel like it was completely my decision at first even though I am happy now, I don't feel like her and I can just "hang out", we both share the very same core values however differ in the little things like our music taste and what we like to do together on our spare time (neither of us are party people though, which many people are in our age group that we know).
Now, I'm a thinker and I've thought about this for the years that I've been with her, but I've hit this point where I can't figure out just where this discontent is coming from. The sex thing, I am actually ok with. I respect it and if I realize that it's just my hormones messing with me (since I am a young guy in college) I can deal with it. I understand that it would be worth the wait as are so many other things in this world. I'll get a crush on a girl here and there, but I know it's just that, a crush. The only other issue that I think all this discontent could really be coming from is the interests part, the hanging out part, and how I felt rushed.
Other than that almost no complaints. She is ideal wife material. My family loves her and I love her family (and mine of course). I mean it really is just a fantastic relationship. But I heard a quote from I can't remember who that says something like "there are different loves but none the same". I know this is love, but is this the right love for me to be investing this time in while the true right love might be right in front of me and I not see it because I am occupied in this?
What do you think? What should I do? Or even just where do you think this feeling of discontent that has been here for pretty much the entire relationship is coming from?
p.s. I know we're both young, but I want to make sure that if I'm building a relationship like this, it's with the right person.
. She is VERY smart, sweet, beautiful, caring, loves me unconditionally as do I love her. I would do anything for her.The problem is that although I'm very happy with her, I don't know if I could be happier. I've had other girlfriends but none as serious as this. I'm a one girl kind of guy and have no interest in changing that. So, because of that, I haven't really "been around" or seen what else is out there. I don't mean sleep around, just meet girls and see who I'm compatible with. Not necessarily by my physical taste and theirs, but all around. A few points in relation to this: I've never lived with a girl, never been in a relationship that involved sex regularly (she is saving it for marriage, so we don't have sex), I felt a little rushed by our mutual friends to ask her out back in high school so I don't feel like it was completely my decision at first even though I am happy now, I don't feel like her and I can just "hang out", we both share the very same core values however differ in the little things like our music taste and what we like to do together on our spare time (neither of us are party people though, which many people are in our age group that we know).
Now, I'm a thinker and I've thought about this for the years that I've been with her, but I've hit this point where I can't figure out just where this discontent is coming from. The sex thing, I am actually ok with. I respect it and if I realize that it's just my hormones messing with me (since I am a young guy in college) I can deal with it. I understand that it would be worth the wait as are so many other things in this world. I'll get a crush on a girl here and there, but I know it's just that, a crush. The only other issue that I think all this discontent could really be coming from is the interests part, the hanging out part, and how I felt rushed.
Other than that almost no complaints. She is ideal wife material. My family loves her and I love her family (and mine of course). I mean it really is just a fantastic relationship. But I heard a quote from I can't remember who that says something like "there are different loves but none the same". I know this is love, but is this the right love for me to be investing this time in while the true right love might be right in front of me and I not see it because I am occupied in this?
What do you think? What should I do? Or even just where do you think this feeling of discontent that has been here for pretty much the entire relationship is coming from?
p.s. I know we're both young, but I want to make sure that if I'm building a relationship like this, it's with the right person.
11 years