Submission and domination

I have a great feedee who is fantastic about eating everything I suggest (and more).

But...he's just not a submissive person. He's also not at all embarrassed by his weight or his size, and teasing doesn't particularly appeal to him. He's got a lot of confidence in himself and a decent size ego in fact. I know that's not exactly a bad attribute in a person, but submissiveness is a really necessary component of this fetish for me.

He's more than willing to try, and even suggested I post here. Any ideas of how I could help him be more so?

A feedee can be in charge in the world and still be submissive to the feeder in terms of food and sexuality in the privacy of the bedroom. My best advice is to explore his feedee tendancies to find what can turn both of you on. Have you shown him your stories? Might be a conversation starter. Best of luck....

Thanks everyone.

I agree with this idea about showing him your stories. That way, you expose a bit of yourself and your fantasies for him to play against.

I also think that exploring his weaknesses makes sense. While he might not mind the weight gain, and he might seem very confident, is there anyone who he might feel embarrassed around regarding getting fatter -- perhaps a co-worker, an ex-girlfriend, family members, friends?

Also, is there a favorite thing of his which you can control? Sex, of course, comes to mind, but that is the obvious one. Maybe even telling him he can't play computer games or watch football (how sexist I sound!) until he eats or gains a certain amount. This way, you create a bit of roleplay which puts him in a sub position of pleasing you in order to get what he wants.

The other idea is to find something he dislikes and threaten punishment if he fails to meet your expectations. Again, being I am being sexist, but, for example, he has to attend the chick flick of the week with you (or concert or opera or get his haircut in a style of your choice, or let you choose his clothes to wear) unless he meets whatever random goal you set.

I know this all seems a bit simplistic (expecially with my examples here, sorry), but I am sure you can come up with something very fun and interesting in order to challenge his sense of security, self-esteeem and comfort.