Gaining

And staunch denial/thought separation tactics. No I don't me aggresive like physical force. I mean in general temperment about their reality at hand.

My prime example with this is the time I was driving (rare, since I don't own a car) with this 'girl of interest' and we were going to get food. It's midnight and of course she wants McD. So we end up at one like 2 blocks from her place. I was pulling in to park and she let's on with this distraught voice as to what I'm doing. I'm like we're here...? No. Absolutley not having it. Demands I go through the drive-thru (again, not a driver and also not a drive-thru person as it seems redundant to me as walking in is..not a chore, and saves gas). It's a serious tone...as though I'm the crazy one.

Now keep in mind this is one of those deniers. The I got hurt and couldn't play soccer anymore types... Supposedly hating their body but..sporting a waddle and belly going on 12 months pregnant. But said girl's car is always filled with empty fast food bags and pop bottles.

It's the idea I'm getting at here of: I can't even think of getting of my ass for 5 minutes at midnight to order a big mac with extra large fries and shake. Yet said person will still say they want to lose weight... I just complied and awed at the situation.

It's this underlying greed and simplicity I guess? Said person is not actually greedy in any other way, but the demand for food and in such a typically fat person manner was...wow.

I've seen various other examples. Your fellow university student who can't seem to stop eating whole kilo bags of candy at 2am and happens to be bursting out of old clothes, can't do up pants, and boobs spilling out of new bras... (And my unit about to explode from hardness seeing this)...

Anyway.. Has anyone ever been with the 'I don't want to be fat' but here's what I do type? It's a sad mismatch in minds as it's: this is what I like and that's exactly what she like, yet she hates it all. But more so the type to carry out fat actions and sterotypes to the point of being just a little upset otherwise? (Also because it is the most normal way for them)

Both but especially the first are so exactly the lifestyle that leads to attractions. It's a double-edged sword I guess. You know these are true fatties at heart, but they don't embrace it

Neither of them were spoiled is the thing. Quite the opposite really.

It's cultural violation, yet it is one cultural aspect (in North America) that is completely fat-reinforcing. Easiest possible access to the most of the most fattening food.

I'm just wondering if people see this a lot in fat people who have never heard of sites like this or have no apparent desire to gain weight while simultaneously saying they hate it and want to lose it.

Those moments where you almost want to blurt out "this is exactly the type of reason you're fat"... As anyone who wants to lose weight knows it starts with little lifestyle changes like that.

I dunno I'm probably just frustrated because it would make so much more sense if people accepted who they are, why they are, instead of self-loathing and all kinds of self-denial...

Maybe you should focus your blame less on her and more on a judgey society.

Those people at the windows never judge.