Gaining

I can understand a bit and I think others definitely have similar feelings that go back and forth.

Your other post hours before this one that was "addicted to being Fat" or something similar to that title. I think there are percentages within you that love Fat, Fat talk and admiration of your fat and others...actually everything about it....and then all of a sudden you snap a bit out of the erotic moment and realize like in this post where you might be slightly embarrassed by something you are wearing or showing to much of the hot sexiness that actually turns you on so much at other times and think of trying to hide it in front of others etc.

I am sure others will chime in that this can be pretty common.

When I was intentionally gaining myself I had times where all I wanted was to get my belly bigger and bigger and gain more weight by stuffing and eating and then not just moments later I felt a bit insecure going into see an acquaintance from work after lunch that has not seen me in a while with my dress shirt barely being able to contain my huge new gut and waiting from a comment from him like...."wow, look's like you don't work out anymore....and you have taken up competitive donut eating" or something with a slashing fat comment. I tended to enjoy fattening myself but I certainly was more withdrawn in my own world and wanted to get Fatter and just show it to the ones around me. I also felt a bit weird around letting my big new gut hand out in front of my kids at the pool or stuff like that but was very eager to show it off in front of my wife to get a comment. I think it has a bit to do with the erotic nature of getting fatter and gaining.

I think people are drawn to the extremes but with this fetish there's a continuum of possibilities and the middle path will probably be best in most cases.

But to address the question:

The main sign you may have overdone it is when you can't take care of yourself and need help to just take a shower or use the toilet or put on your clothes.

I admire people who love this so much they are willing to go to that extreme, but it's a huge step and definitely not for everybody!