johniav:
Hey, don't sweat it. Before, I became chubby, I had a terrible degree of anxiety on account of the fact that I'm very short for a guy. Once, I gained weight, I had violated two. rules of what not to be...... I was short and fat for a guy. When I began to focus on things that I wanted, people would feed off of my positive energy. I was like a luminary. Focus on what makes you happy and life will work it's self out.
This sounds like me to a t. I'm short: not quite 5' 6", fat and bald (so, I shave it). I feared becoming the stereotypical short fat bald guy ala Danny De Vito, the "time to make the donuts" Dunkin Donuts guy, or the short fat grandpa. I'm gray, and my beard gives people the opportunity to make Santa Claus comments. Contrary to how most people feel about Santa Claus, he kind of creeps me out. :o
Anyway, little by little I've simply become comfortable with what I look like and how I feel about myself in spite of other people's expectations and judgements. It's a process, sometimes slow and painful but I think the anxiety and self-doubt do go away.
