Yeah, that's kind of an awkward and risky spot. Rather than looking specifically for a "Fedee", I'd probably just look for a girl you genuinely enjoy who is comfortable being at least a little bigger - not constantly dieting and putting herself down.
Someone like that, is far more likely to be able to be opened minded and maybe even curious, if you introduce her to it, slowly, over time, so she can think about it and get comfortable it in incremental stages. If she never does, then at least you still got a great girl you can enjoy being in a relationship with, and that's far more valuable and fulfilling than focusing on finding one particular (and very rare) characteristic.
Good luck with your search. :-)
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