LiquidButterBelly:When I was a teenager and trying to lose weight, I lost a ton and people still called me fat. Then I met a feeder who changed my life. I gained hundreds of pounds, and when I looked to these sites for support I was told I wasn't fat! You could say I was "D*mned if I do, d*mned if I don't"! So just do what makes you feel good and ignore the haters. Your life and your body are for you to enjoy, not for others to want you to change it!
This.
Kaity, your body is yours. If you think you are fat, that is your identity alone. You know what is fat for you and not for others. Womens bodies are not for anyone else to police or judge--even if that is meant to be appreciated, it doesn't matter...autonomy, consent, and identity are still important.
I call myself a fatty even though I am, by and large, just average size with a lot of squishiness. Sure in the bbw-loving world I don't register to the "accepted" norm, but it's a state of mind and all about relativity.