7 years
How did you decide if gaining was right for you? (asking for advice)
If you gain and don't like it, you can lose it. Fortunately it's not like a tattoo... not permanent. 
I think a lot if not most of us have been conflicted whether to gain or not. At one point it was only when I was aroused that I liked it. As time went by and continues to go by, I love it more and more. Yes, I think about losing but then I ask myself "why!?"
Especially when I see a store window reflection showing how big my belly is getting, how my belt slides down nd how snug my shirts are getting.
It's a process, not an overnight yes or no.
I think a lot if not most of us have been conflicted whether to gain or not. At one point it was only when I was aroused that I liked it. As time went by and continues to go by, I love it more and more. Yes, I think about losing but then I ask myself "why!?"
Especially when I see a store window reflection showing how big my belly is getting, how my belt slides down nd how snug my shirts are getting.
It's a process, not an overnight yes or no.
7 years
How did you decide if gaining was right for you? (asking for advice)
Jack Valedole:
Encourager/Mutual Gainer here. For me, personally, it's not about arousal. I've always been bony and "rail thin" like you described yourself as being. For as long as I could remember I've hated how my body looked and the remarks I would get because of it.
"Have you eaten today?"
/in a hushed tone/ "Are you Anorexic?"
"Do you want me to buy you a sandwich?"
I was a preteen when I knew I wanted to be big. I would get really jealous of the other kids who were larger. I wanted to be fat like they were.
However, my metabolism has prevented it. Every time I go to the pool I would wear a shirt to hide my ribs and hip-bones. Every time I looked in the mirror I disliked what I saw.
Getting fat and LIKING what I see there is something that I've always wanted and will hopefully soon achieve.
I would rather be happy with the way I look and mocked for being fat than hate my body...and still get mocked.
Hope my rant helps lol
Encourager/Mutual Gainer here. For me, personally, it's not about arousal. I've always been bony and "rail thin" like you described yourself as being. For as long as I could remember I've hated how my body looked and the remarks I would get because of it.
"Have you eaten today?"
/in a hushed tone/ "Are you Anorexic?"
"Do you want me to buy you a sandwich?"
I was a preteen when I knew I wanted to be big. I would get really jealous of the other kids who were larger. I wanted to be fat like they were.
However, my metabolism has prevented it. Every time I go to the pool I would wear a shirt to hide my ribs and hip-bones. Every time I looked in the mirror I disliked what I saw.
Getting fat and LIKING what I see there is something that I've always wanted and will hopefully soon achieve.
I would rather be happy with the way I look and mocked for being fat than hate my body...and still get mocked.
Hope my rant helps lol
I can absolutely relate to everything that you said one hundred percent!
"Are you eating enough?"
"You should eat more."
"How are you so cold?! / Your hands are purple?!"
Just the other day, I was having a meal with my parents for Father's day and they were asking all those questions for what felt like the millionth time. For the first time, I was able to tell them that I'd actually gained a little weight. I wasn't sure if they would ask if I was eating healthy or something along those lines since they are health nuts, but they responded with a resounding "GOOD!". Wonder how long that'll keep up if I decide to gain for real...
Edit - More War Stories:
I knew that I was into fat on some level from an early age so I was pretty excited when I was given the high-calorie Ensure shakes sometime around age 12 (doctor was worried about my weight). Turns out that 3+ years of drinking the stuff daily does diddly squat when you have the metabolism of a racehorse.
Years later, I tried every kind of bulking regime to see if working out could do anything. Nope. The best I ever managed was around two pounds up from baseline and it took a ton of work. I ultimate stopped because years of effort really didn't get me anywhere. In time, I accepted the situation and waited for my metabolism to calm down.
One more story in case the purple hands thing is foreign to anyone interested... When you're very underweight, cold hits like a truck. I can dress for the cold in Winder, but air-conditioning in Summer is the real killer. Way back in high school, they liked to crank the AC and whenever I was seated under a vent I would get really cold and my hands would go deep purple and very numb. One time I was writing a math test and halfway through I had to ask the teacher if I could switch seats with anyone. Of course, the teacher was confused so I had to show him my hands and explain that I was no longer able to write. Naturally, the whole class saw/heard and somebody had to move. That wasn't a great day, but it did teach me to always pack a sweater in Summer which has been an invaluable lesson.
7 years
How did you decide if gaining was right for you? (asking for advice)
MarshmallowMinotaur:
If you gain and don't like it, you can lose it. Fortunately it's not like a tattoo... not permanent.
I think a lot if not most of us have been conflicted whether to gain or not. At one point it was only when I was aroused that I liked it. As time went by and continues to go by, I love it more and more. Yes, I think about losing but then I ask myself "why!?"
Especially when I see a store window reflection showing how big my belly is getting, how my belt slides down nd how snug my shirts are getting.
It's a process, not an overnight yes or no.
If you gain and don't like it, you can lose it. Fortunately it's not like a tattoo... not permanent.
I think a lot if not most of us have been conflicted whether to gain or not. At one point it was only when I was aroused that I liked it. As time went by and continues to go by, I love it more and more. Yes, I think about losing but then I ask myself "why!?"
Especially when I see a store window reflection showing how big my belly is getting, how my belt slides down nd how snug my shirts are getting.
It's a process, not an overnight yes or no.
Absolutely. If I gain and don't like it then I can lose it. However, it'll be easier if I make the right choice from the start so I'm giving it a fair bit of thought before I start down either path.
I think that it comes down to me wanting to be bigger. It could be muscle or fat - both have their pros/cons but I just don't want to be thin/scrawny/etc.
An athletic muscle physique is a good look for pretty much anyone and universally acceptable, but it would be a difficult adjustment to work out (don't enjoy it) and watch what I eat (never had to do that before). I believe that I have the willpower to stick with it, but only if I feel that the payout is worth it.
A chubby physique is taboo, but appealing in a sensual way. Eating whatever I want and as much as I want (I would be fairly mindful of health) would be enjoyable on many levels. I'm somewhat of a foodie so the food itself is a motivator. I'm also turned on by the idea of overeating while knowing full-well that it's making me fatter.
Both have their merit, but getting fat has more risk (having to lose the weight if I don't like it, health, social, relationship, etc) but also possibly more reward. In some sense, going for muscle is the easier way out despite the effort required.
One concern is that, while being bigger in any way is a constant desire, being fatter has only been a desire when I was aroused. This has changed recently and I now feel more-or-less neutrally towards getting fat when I'm not aroused. Is that enough of a green light? Maybe I'm more confident so the idea of being fat in everyday life is more acceptable now. Maybe it's just the excitement of realizing that my metabolism is slowing and switch back and cause issues. The whole situation is sexually charged so it's difficult to think about it rationally.
A little context:
My inclination isn't to be massive, just big.
If I go for the athletic look, it'll be a slow process (ectomorph, etc) and I'll just keep at it with no specific goal. I wouldn't expect to really feel bigger for at least 2 years.
If I give in to gaining then I'd start with another 20 (up 25-30 from baseline) and see how I feel. I'd keep up walking/cardio for stamina and maybe a do a little bit of at-home workout so that it's not purely a skinny-fat look (I have very little muscle at present). If all is well, then I'd aim for 50 up from baseline. After that, I probably wouldn't want to gain intentionally but I could see myself ending up +60-70 in the long run.
7 years
